why is my vagina getting tight..I'm 50 years old in menopause..k-y jelly does help, but This is different. I used to have to tighten my muscles for sex now I have to relax as much as possible. My husband does not even have a large penis...why am I getting tight now? also I'm having sexual aches alot throughout the day..it was especially bad for about 6 months when I was talking to a friend on the phone throughout that time who I reconnected with at a 30 yr HS reunion! we didn't do anything. he was out of state..but we became great friends on the phone then I started getting aroused. It was enjoyable yet awful at the same time. My husband and I started having sex more after that, but now I'm so tight. We didn't have sex for a year and 1/2 b4 that..not due to fighting, but we've had health problems and our 31 year old son has chronic problems and he lives with us. Also our daughter was raped many years ago and after that we had trouble having sex..We are starting to enjoy it now. But I'm always wanting sex. I'm always mentally ready, but I'm tight, I think it's becuz my husband is too tired alot. I don't talk on the phone with my friend anymore. we are still friends, but he had a family tragedy..My relationship wasn't all about this arousal I got from him either , we are friends. I am always feeling like I need satisfaction..I know I should probably try a vibrator..but I'm scared to. It seems like such a lonely thing to do. I don't mind masturbating, but the thought of using a vibrator is just way too weird. My husband is willing to help with anything I need. he has a badly torn rota tor cuff and can't go on top he can't hold himself up. so he tries on his side, but that hurts him and he has to go from behind, with me on my knees
( not anal) never that. I don't like it I'm too tight so if we use K-y jelly it helps a little.. Being tight should be a good thing I know... but I always am.. even when I get excited.. I can't even put 1 finger into masturbate I'm too tight., yet I'm aching for satisfaction. This all happened when My periods stopped. whats happening?