Can HIV Be Transmitted Through Non-penetrative Intercourse?

Question: Hello Dr - I asked my first question on this forum back in 2005 after a slew of symptoms led me to believe that I had contracted the HIV VIRUS, and after 3 months and finally being tested, I was negative - Now 11 Years later, I think my risky behavior has finally led me to contract this horrible disease :-(

18 Days ago, I was intimate with this 46 year old female in my car - No sex, but just grinding, kissing and during the heat of passion, she reached down, fingered herself and then fed her vaginal fluids into my mouth as I sucked her fingers dry of the fluids - She did this 3 times as this was my first experience with a woman doing this, but in the heat of passion, I went with it.

Now 18 Days later, I have what I thought was an extreme ingrown hair because puss and blood was coming out of it, I have come to the conclusion that it is only part of what seems to be an enlarged lymph node (the size of a golf ball) - that's my assessment -

There has been no fevers, no night sweats, no thrush, but what I perceive to be minor joint pains since this exposure has seemed to exist since exposure. I am deeply worried and concerned that this woman fed me her vaginal fluids maliciously as to infect me with HIV :-(

She is 46 years old and has grown kids, and claims to have been with 4 men in her life. I just don't know.

I know only an HIV will confirm my status, but until the 6-week time frame gets here, I wanted to get your opinion.

Thanks