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Can Men With Sexist Behavior Be Considered As Child Abusers?

Posted on Tue, 9 Jun 2015

Question: hello sir
how you doing sir?
i have my own theory about sexual abuse by parents ...
(i just read some physoanalysis theory about sexual abuse by parents)
is it true men who believes in sexism against women and also have emotions disorders, sadism problems

they are sexual abuser for children?

this was my mother husband personality and he abused me in childhood as he treats women with sexism and also he was sex addicted. i believe in my own theory men who treats women with sexism are sexual abuser ? not always but so many

Answered by Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (2 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Men sexism problem not always/ automatically child abuser also

Detailed Answer:
Dear patient,

i am a general practitioner with extra qualification in psychotherapy.

First of all i am very sorry you had to go through a history of child abuse.
About your search for explanations: men who treat women with sexism and sadism may sometimes have tentencies to be child abusers too. But for all modern psychotherapy knows it is not ALWAYS like that. There is no reliable statistics known about this so it is not possible to give you exact figures.

But anyway, what you really need is a good traumatherapy depending on in which ways this affects your life still today. Hope you are getting therapeutic help dealing with this in a bearable way.

Hope this is helping you , if you have any clarificatons you can get back to me, if this was helpful please kindly rate my answer. Best regards

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad

Follow up: Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (11 hours later)

yeah he was my mother husband and her ..... this personality intent to show me while having sex with a naked mother and beatting her....this is not a physical sexual abuse but its pornography or making a child as a witnesses for sexual relationship..... which i think its referring to his sadism problems. (as a child i got shocked and suprised why he treats woman like this or i got shocked from naked body looking as i felt this is immoral) he intent to show me this in a ways to slut me. and told me see !!!

Answered by Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (44 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Very sorry!!! Any more questions?

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXX,

i am very sorry to hear that and wish you all the best. If above mentioned answer was helpful please kindly rate my answer. Do you have any more questions? Kind regards

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vinay Bhardwaj

Follow up: Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (34 hours later)

why do i feel your are angry?????!!!! is talking with you about sexual abuse makes u feel angry??!@@

Answered by Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (6 minutes later)

Dear XXXX,

No! Really no anger from my side. If you have any more clarifications please let me know.

Kind regards

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad

Follow up: Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (14 hours later)

is all my mother ex husband tend to feel is his childhood odipal complex problems with me as he have so many physological disorders? because i feel this !! as i read some physologists new theories that odipal complex due to sexual abuse parents not normally coming! he returned to abuse me as a child of his wife as he had sexual abuse

Answered by Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (18 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Your speculations can be true

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXX,

yes your explanation can be true. I am sure your father had a very problematic childhood with possible abuse also, which made him be like that. If the odipal complex plays a role is speculation that is hard to tell from far but it is a possibility as one piece of the puzzle togther with other reasons. Probably there is no single explanation in this complex matter.

Best regards again

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Neel Kudchadkar

Follow up: Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (17 minutes later)

not my father! my mother ex husband! we dont believe in odipal complex as a normal complex we believe its because of parents abuse ... due to some physological critism... any way isnt a point to believe or not... i will rate you and give you the best rate!!! as you waited me to rate.

Answered by Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (1 hour later)

Brief Answer:
Thank you and best wishes

Detailed Answer:
Sorry about the misunderstanding, thank you for willing to give me a good rating and best wishes for you. If odipal complex has something to do with abuse is a so far non proven theory...

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vinay Bhardwaj

Follow up: Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (5 days later)

yeah its written in some books about abuse not written by so many doctors and not agreed from so many physchoanlysts. but is you studied it as a general dr in univ or is an self education to you? because my friend is sergeon and he didnt study any thing in phychoanalysis in lebanon!i surprised ..

Answered by Dr. Ralf Von Seckendorff (27 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Additional 3 year certification psychotherapy done in germany

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXX,

in germany you can do an extra 3 year training in psychotherapy, (which i did in addition to 7 years of med school and 5 years of internship/ residency, which doesn't include that normally as you say correctly).

Off course in lebanon a surgeon would not do that... a general practitioner in germany can do it though if he likes to, since that helps him a lot in his daily routine and also allows him to officially do psychotherapy if he wishes that.

So what i am telling you is more than "just" out of self studies.

Best regards again

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vinay Bhardwaj