Brief Answer:
This may be
IBS / Polyp
Detailed Answer:
Hi.
Thanks for a detailed history. Noted every word of it.
To answer your question:
Yes the males and in fact all have anal sphincter.
The symptoms you are getting are more in favor of
constipation with resultant complication. It becomes a vicious cycle- meaning you get one problem , which leads to another and another and the problems continue on.
For you to get out of this problem, I would suggest you the following and will definitely help you a lot.
First of all Consult a Gastroinetstinal Surgeon. Get your self checked by manual examination done by him to make sure how much your sphincter is working,. Are there associated problems like a fissure/ piles/ polyp and so on. Id he advises , please go for
colonoscopy, as this is necessary to see the changes in the large bowel and may find the causative reason up there.
Since you are allergic to cats , dust and pollen, it is possible that you may be suffering from
Irritable bowel Syndrome in this form.
Till you get an appointment, Have liquid
cremaffin plus 1 to 2 teaspoonful at bedtime, Sit in a water-tub with warm water. (Sitz bath)Avoid all foods and beverages which you know increase your problem.
Do not worry , your problem is treatable.
Your sphincter is NOT damaged , as one will loose a control over holding stool.