
Feeling Confused And Anxiety. Not In Good Relationship With Boyfriend. Suggest

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Thanks for your query. I understand the emotional turmoil you are facing currently. Loss of a loved one is referred to as bereavement and following the loss of his mother, your boy friend should be passing through a grief reaction. At times, the grief reaction may take long to resolve and may be unusually severe referred to as complicated grief reaction. I would suggest you encourage your boy friend to XXXXXXX a clinical psychologist or a psychiatrist to assess and help him out. A form of psychotherapy/ talk therapy called as "grief work" helps in resolution of grief. However, the interpersonal issue pertaining to your boy friend being already married is a different complex issue and i would not be able to provide any suggestions at this juncture with the available information. Wish you good health.
Regards
Dr Sundar
Psychiatrist


I feel very sick to my stomach now. What can I do to cope with this change in my boyfriend, be patient, stop being emotional and wait to see where it goes?
How long I wait is another question. The way I see it if this man really loves me he will be there for me and not leave me. Unless something happened. The fact that he communicates with me every day I feel like it is more the griefing he is going through. I will not ask any emotional questions and just be cool with him. Also, note that he is German and I am italian......he definitely loves my passion for intimacy.....now I have to keep quiet and let things go back to normal, if possible. Do you have any other suggestions? I hate feeling this helpless and sad. Thanks...it feels like rejection and how can that be when someone loves you....???
With regard to your interpersonal issues I understand you are confused. I would suggest that after a period say a month discuss frankly regarding your expectations from your boy friend and the trajectory you want your relationship to take and the time limit you would like to set for the same. Following the discussion it is upto your discretion to continue the relationship or dienscale to just friendship or break the relationship. It should be a mutual well discussed and an informed decision. Wish you all the best.
Regards
Dr XXXXXXX
Psychiatrist

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