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Hi: My Mom Is In Her Mid 70s And Leaves
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My mom is in her mid 70s and leaves in XXXXXXX XXXXXXX She is staying unrest the whole day. She is constantly on her feet except during sleeping hours. She takes sleeping tablets along with other medications. She is absolutely resistant to visit a doctor. We tried in every possible ways to take her to the doctor. But nothing is working. She does her own routine works. She has sharp memory but she keep asking for food 2 hours (in every 2-3 minutes interval) before her lunch and dinner time. Even if we want to serve her food before time, she is denying and then continue to ask for food till the actual lunch/dinner time. Those 2 hours, she is more unrest than ever. In entire day, she is not willing to do any conversation, no entertainment; she does not want to go anywhere. Please advise what should we do to increase her and family's quality of life ?
My mom is in her mid 70s and leaves in XXXXXXX XXXXXXX She is staying unrest the whole day. She is constantly on her feet except during sleeping hours. She takes sleeping tablets along with other medications. She is absolutely resistant to visit a doctor. We tried in every possible ways to take her to the doctor. But nothing is working. She does her own routine works. She has sharp memory but she keep asking for food 2 hours (in every 2-3 minutes interval) before her lunch and dinner time. Even if we want to serve her food before time, she is denying and then continue to ask for food till the actual lunch/dinner time. Those 2 hours, she is more unrest than ever. In entire day, she is not willing to do any conversation, no entertainment; she does not want to go anywhere. Please advise what should we do to increase her and family's quality of life ?
Brief Answer:
Patience always pays
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX Thanks for the question. I can understand. I strongly suspect the behavior has something to do with the stroke and blood clots on her brain. Did you consult a neurologist with those past reports ? What did he say ?
If your mother is not willing for a doctor consultation, you can always consult a doctor without her and provide the information so that the doctor can help you with some treatment methods.
You were patient enough with your mother and I appreciate this. I suggest you to be more caring that being confrontational. The best thing you can do here is to be with your mother and accept and appreciate everything she does. You should request all your family members too to follow this care. Once you start doing this, your mother could develop the lost trust in you and your family. This could lead to co-operation.
Steps you can take here:
1. Consult your neurologist (alone if your mother is not willing) with the previous reports and get advise on the clot and stroke.
2. If you tell the details to the neurologist, he can alter the four month old prescription and could also give some advise on how to deal with your mother.
Only if the above two steps, fail
3. Win your mothers trust slowly and slowly. it could take time, but it is worth.
Patience always pays.
Take care
Patience always pays
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX Thanks for the question. I can understand. I strongly suspect the behavior has something to do with the stroke and blood clots on her brain. Did you consult a neurologist with those past reports ? What did he say ?
If your mother is not willing for a doctor consultation, you can always consult a doctor without her and provide the information so that the doctor can help you with some treatment methods.
You were patient enough with your mother and I appreciate this. I suggest you to be more caring that being confrontational. The best thing you can do here is to be with your mother and accept and appreciate everything she does. You should request all your family members too to follow this care. Once you start doing this, your mother could develop the lost trust in you and your family. This could lead to co-operation.
Steps you can take here:
1. Consult your neurologist (alone if your mother is not willing) with the previous reports and get advise on the clot and stroke.
2. If you tell the details to the neurologist, he can alter the four month old prescription and could also give some advise on how to deal with your mother.
Only if the above two steps, fail
3. Win your mothers trust slowly and slowly. it could take time, but it is worth.
Patience always pays.
Take care
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