How Can A Relationship With An Overbearing Fiance Be Managed?
On my. Son s. Birthday she came home apologised and said sorry , though underneath. I had my doubts. , sure enough again today she s fighting with my son saying she ll not meet us after marriage
It is advisable to go for premarital counselling
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
I read your query and understand your concerns.
In my opinion it will be right decision to see a counselor before marriage for your son and your future daughter in law. Although this is somewhat common problem of our society but breaking the family is worst thing which a person can imagine.
Lack of moral values and failure to understand the problem from others perspective leads to such problem and this can be handled well with counselling in most cases. Seeing a counselor will help to understand that psychology of each other and accordingly future decision can be taken. This will be in interest of both families as problems after marriage are difficult to rectify in compare to before marriage where there is only commitment and no relationship.
I understand that she said sorry and apologized but the inconsistent behavior likely to add problems rather than helping.
I hope this helps you.
Feel free to write back to me if you have more questions.
Thanks and regards.
actualky she called me wonky as she wanted us to throw reception which I refused saying beta we r doing 2 pre wedding functions , she went mad after that , holding grudge against me
I do not think her behavior can be considered normal
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for follow up.
I am glad to know that you are seeing Dr XXXXXXX Tiwari and hope that he will come to conclusion in a short time whether the marriage function can be arranged or whether there is need to call a break up. Although I do not have her version of story about the behavior but it seems to me that the behavior can not be considered normal for any person.
There is some possibility that she suffers with histrionic personality disorder although the diagnosis requires extensive work up and it will be premature for me to offer a diagnosis. In my opinion discuss the possibility of personality disorder with Dr XXXXXXX Tiwari as he have more details.
I hope this helps you further.
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Thanks and regards.
S logic
Follow up
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to me.
Dr Tiwari is just following the rules of land and he is not supposed to disclose diagnosis without the permission of girl in question. In other words law do not permit any doctor to disclose details of medical condition without the permission of patient unless there is threat to life of some others.
I hope this clarifies.
Thanks again.
Follow up
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for follow up.
I am sorry to say this but most often our lose observation is responsible for change in behavior. I mean to say that probably the behavior was present before you started observing her but after the engagement you became more observant and behavior became apparent.
My statement is based on the fact that personality disorders are apparent before 18 years of age and they become more obvious for near and dear ones.
I hope this gives you more insight.
Thanks again.