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How Can Extreme Bad Temper In A Child Be Dealt With?
Question: Hello Doctor,
My son is 3 years 7 months old. He is a healthy and lively kid. He started walking when he was 1 and started speaking fluently by 2 years 2 months.
Now coming to the queries. Below are his nature
1. Unlike other children he does not want to just play a toy. He is very very interested in understanding how it works, what all he can do with it. More than playing he is interested in use cases.
2 He is not a fan of XXXXXXX games or cartoons, he uses XXXXXXX phones to type long sentences. Most of the time they are correct.
3. He is very interested in reading and writing. He is kind of self learner. He is in play group now. He will speak a full English sentence only if he knows all the words meaning in that. Otherwise how much ever we try we will not open. Same thing had happened when he started speaking mother tongue kannada. However he can count from 1 to few thousands. He can write almost more than 100 English words.He is big fan of numbers and letters.
4. He has very good interest in music. He sings couple of hindi songs as good like an elderly singer.
5. Orange is his favourite color.
My concern is on his short temper. He is very very short tempered. He does not get angry, rather gets upset and starts crying and that continues for some times. In this duration he throws the things. But he is very selective. He does not thrown any thing valuable.
I am trying my level best of correct this nature, but not able to succeed.
I cannot convince him pampering any time, like i cannot any more call him baby. By mistake if I call him baby, I have to logically justify why I called him as baby.
Most of the time only if I give him a logical answer, he is ok.
I want to know if this is quiet normal?
My son is 3 years 7 months old. He is a healthy and lively kid. He started walking when he was 1 and started speaking fluently by 2 years 2 months.
Now coming to the queries. Below are his nature
1. Unlike other children he does not want to just play a toy. He is very very interested in understanding how it works, what all he can do with it. More than playing he is interested in use cases.
2 He is not a fan of XXXXXXX games or cartoons, he uses XXXXXXX phones to type long sentences. Most of the time they are correct.
3. He is very interested in reading and writing. He is kind of self learner. He is in play group now. He will speak a full English sentence only if he knows all the words meaning in that. Otherwise how much ever we try we will not open. Same thing had happened when he started speaking mother tongue kannada. However he can count from 1 to few thousands. He can write almost more than 100 English words.He is big fan of numbers and letters.
4. He has very good interest in music. He sings couple of hindi songs as good like an elderly singer.
5. Orange is his favourite color.
My concern is on his short temper. He is very very short tempered. He does not get angry, rather gets upset and starts crying and that continues for some times. In this duration he throws the things. But he is very selective. He does not thrown any thing valuable.
I am trying my level best of correct this nature, but not able to succeed.
I cannot convince him pampering any time, like i cannot any more call him baby. By mistake if I call him baby, I have to logically justify why I called him as baby.
Most of the time only if I give him a logical answer, he is ok.
I want to know if this is quiet normal?
Brief Answer:
Not a cause for concern.
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for asking on HealthcareMagic.
I have gone carefully through your query and understand your concerns. Let me assure you that the entire details seemed quite normal to me. It is good to know that he is a quick learner. Many children connect the dots very well and he is one of them. It is when the dots do not connect that he becomes restless, agitated and irritated. Try to be logical and rational but that does not mean that you need to overdo things. It is still ok to call him baby. You do not need to go by the strictest sense of the term. The key lies not in trying to get everything in order but in reaching out to him with the justification that you have. If you can justify it on your end, he too will find the pattern.
Children often behave weirdly and rudely. They may be hard to manage. But your patience matters. Do not punish the child. Try to offer star points as an incentive for not getting agitated (may be be gets one star if he does not get agitated the entire day). Let him collect a certain number of stars and give some simple non-food reward for the same. The reward item should be something that possibly you would have given him anyway, eg. an eraser etc.
I hope that would help. Let me know if I could help further.
Regards
Not a cause for concern.
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for asking on HealthcareMagic.
I have gone carefully through your query and understand your concerns. Let me assure you that the entire details seemed quite normal to me. It is good to know that he is a quick learner. Many children connect the dots very well and he is one of them. It is when the dots do not connect that he becomes restless, agitated and irritated. Try to be logical and rational but that does not mean that you need to overdo things. It is still ok to call him baby. You do not need to go by the strictest sense of the term. The key lies not in trying to get everything in order but in reaching out to him with the justification that you have. If you can justify it on your end, he too will find the pattern.
Children often behave weirdly and rudely. They may be hard to manage. But your patience matters. Do not punish the child. Try to offer star points as an incentive for not getting agitated (may be be gets one star if he does not get agitated the entire day). Let him collect a certain number of stars and give some simple non-food reward for the same. The reward item should be something that possibly you would have given him anyway, eg. an eraser etc.
I hope that would help. Let me know if I could help further.
Regards
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