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How To Deal With Personality Disorder With Someone In A Relationship?

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Posted on Fri, 10 Jun 2016
Question: As you are aware I have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Dependent Personality Disorder. I have also found out that one of the most successful treatments for personality disorder is DBT, is there somewhere on the internet you can recommend to get this treatment. As you can imagine with all the mental health issues I have been diagnosed with it affects me on a daily basis with everyone I come into contact with. Firstly, do you have any advice/tips how to deal with personality disorder when the other person in a personal relationship doesn't have the diagnosis? Secondly, do you have any advice/tips how to manage personality disorder symptoms with people in general?
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Answered by Dr. Alexander H. Sheppe (31 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
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Detailed Answer:
Hello, and thanks for your question.

Managing a personality disorder with someone in a relationship as you know can have its difficulties. It is important to be very open and honest with your partner about your feelings, even the difficult and upsetting feelings, so both of you can work from a position of truth and strength. You and your partner need to be aware that there will be disagreements, arguments, and setbacks, and know that even though there are rough times you both love and value each other. You need to exerciser patience, and so does your partner, both realizing that a personality disorder is an illness that requires special management.

These principles generally apply to your second question as well, managing the disorder with people in general. I would add though that often it is no one else's business that you have a personality disorder -- you do not have to disclose this diagnosis to anyone if you don't want to. But sometimes telling close friends at least can help them understand the struggles you are going through.

If you would like more intensive ongoing text-based, therapy, please reach out to me via my private direct link which I paste at the bottom of this message.

Please remember to rate and close this answer when you are finished and satisfied.


Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Deepak
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Follow up: Dr. Alexander H. Sheppe (30 minutes later)
Sorry, are you telling me that you are happy to do on-line DBT therapy with me? If so, how would it work? How soon can we start?
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Answered by Dr. Alexander H. Sheppe (48 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Followup

Detailed Answer:
Unfortunately no, DBT requires intensive in-person treatment. However, I can help with supportive therapy and aspects of cognitive behavioral therapy that may also be helpful to you. But I do recommend you seek out a DBT therapist in your area.

Dr. Sheppe
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How To Deal With Personality Disorder With Someone In A Relationship?

Brief Answer: Consultation Detailed Answer: Hello, and thanks for your question. Managing a personality disorder with someone in a relationship as you know can have its difficulties. It is important to be very open and honest with your partner about your feelings, even the difficult and upsetting feelings, so both of you can work from a position of truth and strength. You and your partner need to be aware that there will be disagreements, arguments, and setbacks, and know that even though there are rough times you both love and value each other. You need to exerciser patience, and so does your partner, both realizing that a personality disorder is an illness that requires special management. These principles generally apply to your second question as well, managing the disorder with people in general. I would add though that often it is no one else's business that you have a personality disorder -- you do not have to disclose this diagnosis to anyone if you don't want to. But sometimes telling close friends at least can help them understand the struggles you are going through. If you would like more intensive ongoing text-based, therapy, please reach out to me via my private direct link which I paste at the bottom of this message. Please remember to rate and close this answer when you are finished and satisfied.