
How To Handle Emotional Manipulation In A Relationship?

A very common problem
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Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query.
I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.
Let me assure that its a very common problem encountered by youngsters today. With the changing spciety and liberalization of attitudes, such problems have become very common. Its a matter of whole life. If today your boyfreind cannot accept and respect your feeling today then you cannot expect him to do so in future as well. Sex is not a compulsion in a premarital relationship and is taken up only if both of you are comfortable.
Discuss with him your thoughts and the need for him to understand. If he doesnt then you can think of leaving him XXXXXXX its not end of the world. If he thinks of leaving you just for the sake that hebis not getting sexual pleaure from you, then its not a relationship worth living for.
Moreover in out society pre marital relationship has many risks like hiv, aids, hepatitis, pregnancy and herpes. Moreover the commitment for marriage is also not very clear.
Your distress is not acceptable. Start respecting yourself and give it a call.
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Its nkt so
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Its not so. At 22 years he should speak respnsibly. If you were not there in his life wouldnot have he waited. If you refuse, that doest make you a bad girlfriend.
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Dr . Srikanth Reddy


Personal choices
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In this changing society, nothing is exactly right or wrong. It depends on how you feel about it. If you feel good and enjoy the part, then you may go ahead. But if you are not comfortable then, it is wrong to still persist in the same. YOu should better explain your limits to your boyfriend clearly.
Do you follow all the precautions while you are having sex?
Is there any abnormal sexual activity that you proceed with?
IN case if you want any clarifications about these topics do let me know.
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Dr. Srikanth Reddy


Its you who matters the most for yourself
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I guess you should say no for such an act as you are not comfortable for that. In case if your boyfriend breaks up with you in absence of prvision of sex, then it means you are seriously in a very bad relationship. In case if he still continues, you can always opt for having sex when ever you feel comfortable about the issue.
My intution says that you should better breakup than continuing such a relationship.
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Dr. Srikanth Reddy


Just to tell u the past story...we used to go hotels for sex and i was never comfortable..so i told him and fights started. ..
Make a condition
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Thanks for the follow-up question.
Fights and make-ups are common on a relationship and the love/romance generally swells after such fights. What is happening is normal. You may agree to go to the hill station but state him clearly that sex is not going to happen there. Still if he is interested to go and stay in a good hotel, then you may go ahead. But make sure you stick to your words.
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Dr. Srikanth Reddy


I do not feel that if he had really realised so much then he shuoudnt have brought the topic of sex on the very first day of patch up...he treated me too well n then slowly n steadily brought up this topic...about his bday he has himself said what he wants i.e just sex...i m finding this kind of manipulative...what will u guide me sir?
I dont want to get in any trap from which i wont be able to come out...one brain says he is genuinely being over romantic other says he is trying to carry me away emotionally and manipulate me..
Doesnt feel genuine
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The fact that only sex in his mind, irrespective of the risk associated, I feel his love is not genuine. If he loves you then he should be able to do so, with all his heart even without having the provision of sex.
YOu should better part your ways and I feel he will surely find some other girl to have sex with. Its a very personal decision, and I think you should take your own decision in this respect.
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Dr. Srikanth


Plz help me
Now he says i have no feelings i wanna brk up...n says lets go tomorrow to hotel to see if i get feelings...i m just begging in front of him for relation..what should i do? I do nt want to go wid him for sex
Not a healthy relationship
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If the relationship is totally skewed towards sex, then it is not supposed to be a healthy relationship. I doubt whether he is serious enough about the relationship. If you are comfortable with him except for the sex part and seriously plan to marry him in future then you can ask him to get married right away in the court. If he feels that he can treat you as wife then he can officially be your husband as well. YOu can anytime have a proper marrige with the family members. In case if he says no to the court marriage, then he is simply using you and doesnt want any commitments. Ask him if he is ready to get married in court.
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Dr. Srikanth Reddy

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