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How To Manage Depression Due To Excessive Height Difference In Couple?

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Posted on Mon, 8 Jun 2015
Question: my wife height is 4' 9 '' . mine is 5' 7''
sometimes it leads to frustation and depresion. what should i do..
any possible solution.?
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Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
In most cases height increase occurs till 20-22 years age don't be stressed

Detailed Answer:
Hello Thanks for asking from HCM for your health related queries

I can understand your concern. Your height is 5'7" and hers 4'9''. If we consider normal growth of height in any individual then in most cases increase in height occurs till age of about 20-22 years. In most of individuals bone growth get completed by that age and joint fusion occurs. So its very difficult to increase the height after that age. So best thing is to accept her height and don't feel bad about this. She is your wife and love her irrespective of her height. Appreciate her love towards you, appreciate her good things and this would reduce the frustration dn depression in you. Try not to feel bad about her height and its your duty to reassure her for her height.

If she has very high frustration and stress due to her low height then there is one surgical technique that can help to increase the height but that is reserved only for some rare cases and is associated with a lot of complications. Ilizarov's Technique for limb lengthening is there but as I have mentioned it is associated with complications and its cost is very high. Full procedure takes about 6-12 months and this cause significant co-morbidity. If her height is causing a lot of stress in you and your wife then you can visit a orthopaedic doctor for proper opinion.

Please don't fall prey of the products that are sold online for height increase because height cant be increased after a particular age. Try to reassure yourself and love your wife. Don't be stressed.

Thanks, Hope this helps you. Take care
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (41 hours later)
i am just feeling too insecure for society. what people and my frienda will think about me? sometimes i even scare to walk with her. but i love her and not want to destroy her life.
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Answered by Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi (2 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Don't hesitate to face the people along with your wife.

Detailed Answer:
Hello again and thanks for asking a follow up question.

First of all keep one thing in mind that society has nothing to do with your personal life. Your personal life is yours and no one should comment or think about it except you and your wife. Don't think that what people will think about you. No one has time to think about others. As I have mentioned earlier also, appreciate her love towards you. Appreciate her positive things and love her, this will reduce the bad feelings about her.

Don't get scared from anything, instead fight with good spirit. Face the people and friends along with your wife. No one can comment anything bad about you if you would remain strong. Don't let anyone to enter your personal space. Just keep these things in mind and enjoy your life.

Thanks, Still if you have more to say please ask again.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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How To Manage Depression Due To Excessive Height Difference In Couple?

Brief Answer: In most cases height increase occurs till 20-22 years age don't be stressed Detailed Answer: Hello Thanks for asking from HCM for your health related queries I can understand your concern. Your height is 5'7" and hers 4'9''. If we consider normal growth of height in any individual then in most cases increase in height occurs till age of about 20-22 years. In most of individuals bone growth get completed by that age and joint fusion occurs. So its very difficult to increase the height after that age. So best thing is to accept her height and don't feel bad about this. She is your wife and love her irrespective of her height. Appreciate her love towards you, appreciate her good things and this would reduce the frustration dn depression in you. Try not to feel bad about her height and its your duty to reassure her for her height. If she has very high frustration and stress due to her low height then there is one surgical technique that can help to increase the height but that is reserved only for some rare cases and is associated with a lot of complications. Ilizarov's Technique for limb lengthening is there but as I have mentioned it is associated with complications and its cost is very high. Full procedure takes about 6-12 months and this cause significant co-morbidity. If her height is causing a lot of stress in you and your wife then you can visit a orthopaedic doctor for proper opinion. Please don't fall prey of the products that are sold online for height increase because height cant be increased after a particular age. Try to reassure yourself and love your wife. Don't be stressed. Thanks, Hope this helps you. Take care