
How To Over Come Low Self Esteem?

Be happy with what you have
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Welcome to HCM
We understand your concerns
I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. You are definitely handsome. You yourself are sure that you have quite a few girl friends. If they are not your girlfriends looking your handsome get up, then why are they your girl friends? Do you have a lot of money? Do you spend much on them? You are just 18. At this age such thoughts do come to everyone and that is because of your sexual libido.
I suggest, it is not you who should judge your appearance. Such a task always is to completed by others.
You must have noticed, an appearance OK for you may not be OK for others. You may like a girl on the instant you see her, but your friend of your age disagrees. You may immediately like a strange person just being with him for a few seconds, and your friend or others may not. That is perception.
Everyone have their own way of perceiving things. As you are mentioning bodily features here, I am pointing towards that. Your likes are not good for others. Such is the case with others too. someone like you and someone do not. All those all perceptions.
You are not happy with your apparent looks. No matter how you try, you cannot improve your natural looks. Yes. You can have add-on like sun glasses, nice hair style etc. But they are just temporary. They cannot improve your looks permanently.
Exercise, keep yourself mentally and physically fit and be yourself in everything you do. Respect elders and others and be at service to others. Naturally people start liking your attitude, thereby liking your appearance. Once you do these, your self confidence multiplies and you feel like a man. Have you seen XXXXXXX Schwarzenegger, XXXXXXX President, and quite a lot of leaders and other well known figures? How many of them are good looking? Handsome? Most of them are not. They why they are admired (of course, not by all)? That is because of their doings (karma). You let yourself know to others by what you do (karma) and not by how you look.
Therefore, instead of worrying about what you do not have, be happy with what you have. Your manners, looks, behavior, talents, skills, everything is your assets. Take confidence from them.
Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.
God bless you.

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