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I Am 75 Years Old And A Widow. I Haven't

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Posted on Mon, 11 Jan 2021
Question: I am 75 years old and a widow. I haven't had sexual intercourse in about 8 years. I have met someone that I deeply care for, but my vagina is very tight and he cant come into me. How can I stretch my vagina out where we can have intercourse?
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Answered by Dr. Olgeta Xhufka (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
Use lubricants and dilators.

Detailed Answer:
Hello dear, welcome to Ask a doctor's service.
I read your query and here is my advice.

Having vaginal tightness during menopause and while not having intercourse for so long is normal.
You can use a water based lubricant to help penetration.
Also you can use vaginal dilators when you are alone may help you dilate the vagina.
Use water based lubricants before inserting the dilators and you can use it for up to 10 minutes.
Also relax the pelvic floor muscles .

Hope I have answered the question.
Let me know if I can assist you further.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad
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Follow up: Dr. Olgeta Xhufka (1 hour later)
Thank you for being so candid with me. This is a whole new experience for my partner and I. I will try to do what you said.
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Answered by Dr. Olgeta Xhufka (19 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
You are welcome.

Detailed Answer:
You are welcome.
Try doing those tips hoping that you will feel more comfortable during intercourse.
Regards.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad
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Dr. Olgeta Xhufka

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I Am 75 Years Old And A Widow. I Haven't

Brief Answer: Use lubricants and dilators. Detailed Answer: Hello dear, welcome to Ask a doctor's service. I read your query and here is my advice. Having vaginal tightness during menopause and while not having intercourse for so long is normal. You can use a water based lubricant to help penetration. Also you can use vaginal dilators when you are alone may help you dilate the vagina. Use water based lubricants before inserting the dilators and you can use it for up to 10 minutes. Also relax the pelvic floor muscles . Hope I have answered the question. Let me know if I can assist you further.