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Question: I need some useful tactics the teacher (and I) can use for an unruly three year old at preschool. Throwing toys, hitting friends, hitting the teacher. He starts out well in the morning and then goes down hill during the day. Will not lay still during nap time.
I need some useful tactics the teacher (and I) can use for an unruly three year old at preschool. Throwing toys, hitting friends, hitting the teacher. He starts out well in the morning and then goes down hill during the day. Will not lay still during nap time.
Brief Answer:
Suggestions on temper tantrums
Detailed Answer:
Hello...Tantrums are common during the second year of life and up to 4 years some times, a time when language skills are starting to develop. Because toddlers can't yet say what they want, feel, or need, a frustrating experience may cause a tantrum. As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease.
When the kid is screaming at the top of her voice because the knows that you are agitated by that and that you will bend to whatever the wants are.
At that particular point of time the best way is to keep your composure and not to react to such behavior.
It is very common at this age to react like this and get things done because the kid cannot get things done by reasoning or by dialogue.
If you start yielding to those demands just because the kid is screaming actually this will reinforce this behavior because the kid's mind automatically learns that if you scream you will get things done.
At the same time the kid should also learn that whatever the NEEDS are will be automatically met with but if it is not good for the kid, the WANTS will never be yielded to.
Please note the subtle difference between the needs and wants.
For example if there is a small toy car on the upper shelf, even before the kid asks it or immediately after the kid demands it, it has to be given to the kid.
But at the same time if the kid demands a glass jar it should never be given whatever screaming and tantrum the exhibits.
This is what you can do to avoid or prevent tantrums -
1. Give plenty of positive attention
2. Try to give toddlers some control over little things
3. Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach
4. Distract your child
5. Help kids learn new skills and succeed
6. Consider the request carefully when your child wants something
7. Know your child's limits
I wish your kid a bright future. If you need any future medical consultation and suggestions, I will be glad to help. You can approach me at the following link.
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In this way even in health care magic you can follow up always with a single doctor who knows the history of your kid completely. Please find the link below -
www.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-sumanth-amperayani/67696
Best regards - Dr Sumanth Amperayani
Suggestions on temper tantrums
Detailed Answer:
Hello...Tantrums are common during the second year of life and up to 4 years some times, a time when language skills are starting to develop. Because toddlers can't yet say what they want, feel, or need, a frustrating experience may cause a tantrum. As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease.
When the kid is screaming at the top of her voice because the knows that you are agitated by that and that you will bend to whatever the wants are.
At that particular point of time the best way is to keep your composure and not to react to such behavior.
It is very common at this age to react like this and get things done because the kid cannot get things done by reasoning or by dialogue.
If you start yielding to those demands just because the kid is screaming actually this will reinforce this behavior because the kid's mind automatically learns that if you scream you will get things done.
At the same time the kid should also learn that whatever the NEEDS are will be automatically met with but if it is not good for the kid, the WANTS will never be yielded to.
Please note the subtle difference between the needs and wants.
For example if there is a small toy car on the upper shelf, even before the kid asks it or immediately after the kid demands it, it has to be given to the kid.
But at the same time if the kid demands a glass jar it should never be given whatever screaming and tantrum the exhibits.
This is what you can do to avoid or prevent tantrums -
1. Give plenty of positive attention
2. Try to give toddlers some control over little things
3. Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach
4. Distract your child
5. Help kids learn new skills and succeed
6. Consider the request carefully when your child wants something
7. Know your child's limits
I wish your kid a bright future. If you need any future medical consultation and suggestions, I will be glad to help. You can approach me at the following link.
Once the page opens there will be an option below my image as – ASK ME A QUESTION – click on it.
In this way even in health care magic you can follow up always with a single doctor who knows the history of your kid completely. Please find the link below -
www.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-sumanth-amperayani/67696
Best regards - Dr Sumanth Amperayani
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Brief Answer:
Suggestions on temper tantrums
Detailed Answer:
Hello...Tantrums are common during the second year of life and up to 4 years some times, a time when language skills are starting to develop. Because toddlers can't yet say what they want, feel, or need, a frustrating experience may cause a tantrum. As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease.
When the kid is screaming at the top of her voice because the knows that you are agitated by that and that you will bend to whatever the wants are.
At that particular point of time the best way is to keep your composure and not to react to such behavior.
It is very common at this age to react like this and get things done because the kid cannot get things done by reasoning or by dialogue.
If you start yielding to those demands just because the kid is screaming actually this will reinforce this behavior because the kid's mind automatically learns that if you scream you will get things done.
At the same time the kid should also learn that whatever the NEEDS are will be automatically met with but if it is not good for the kid, the WANTS will never be yielded to.
Please note the subtle difference between the needs and wants.
For example if there is a small toy car on the upper shelf, even before the kid asks it or immediately after the kid demands it, it has to be given to the kid.
But at the same time if the kid demands a glass jar it should never be given whatever screaming and tantrum the exhibits.
This is what you can do to avoid or prevent tantrums -
1. Give plenty of positive attention
2. Try to give toddlers some control over little things
3. Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach
4. Distract your child
5. Help kids learn new skills and succeed
6. Consider the request carefully when your child wants something
7. Know your child's limits
I wish your kid a bright future. If you need any future medical consultation and suggestions, I will be glad to help. You can approach me at the following link.
Once the page opens there will be an option below my image as – ASK ME A QUESTION – click on it.
In this way even in health care magic you can follow up always with a single doctor who knows the history of your kid completely. Please find the link below -
www.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-sumanth-amperayani/67696
Best regards - Dr Sumanth Amperayani
Suggestions on temper tantrums
Detailed Answer:
Hello...Tantrums are common during the second year of life and up to 4 years some times, a time when language skills are starting to develop. Because toddlers can't yet say what they want, feel, or need, a frustrating experience may cause a tantrum. As language skills improve, tantrums tend to decrease.
When the kid is screaming at the top of her voice because the knows that you are agitated by that and that you will bend to whatever the wants are.
At that particular point of time the best way is to keep your composure and not to react to such behavior.
It is very common at this age to react like this and get things done because the kid cannot get things done by reasoning or by dialogue.
If you start yielding to those demands just because the kid is screaming actually this will reinforce this behavior because the kid's mind automatically learns that if you scream you will get things done.
At the same time the kid should also learn that whatever the NEEDS are will be automatically met with but if it is not good for the kid, the WANTS will never be yielded to.
Please note the subtle difference between the needs and wants.
For example if there is a small toy car on the upper shelf, even before the kid asks it or immediately after the kid demands it, it has to be given to the kid.
But at the same time if the kid demands a glass jar it should never be given whatever screaming and tantrum the exhibits.
This is what you can do to avoid or prevent tantrums -
1. Give plenty of positive attention
2. Try to give toddlers some control over little things
3. Keep off-limits objects out of sight and out of reach
4. Distract your child
5. Help kids learn new skills and succeed
6. Consider the request carefully when your child wants something
7. Know your child's limits
I wish your kid a bright future. If you need any future medical consultation and suggestions, I will be glad to help. You can approach me at the following link.
Once the page opens there will be an option below my image as – ASK ME A QUESTION – click on it.
In this way even in health care magic you can follow up always with a single doctor who knows the history of your kid completely. Please find the link below -
www.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-sumanth-amperayani/67696
Best regards - Dr Sumanth Amperayani
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Is there anything I can tell his teacher to do in class? Specifically she'll tell him to stop doing something. He won't. She'll walk over to remove whatever he's doing and he'll slap at her or throw across the room what she's told him to put down.
Give me a pointer on this one and that will be all I need.
Give me a pointer on this one and that will be all I need.
Is there anything I can tell his teacher to do in class? Specifically she'll tell him to stop doing something. He won't. She'll walk over to remove whatever he's doing and he'll slap at her or throw across the room what she's told him to put down.
Give me a pointer on this one and that will be all I need.
Give me a pointer on this one and that will be all I need.
Brief Answer:
Best way is to ignore it and tell other kids to do what she wants he will
Detailed Answer:
Hello...best way is to ignore this abnormal behaviour and she should be telling the other kids and directing them what to do and give them positive reinforcement by applauding them.
Whatever he does is getting attention, either positive or negative and that is the reason why he is doing it even more.
We should be taking off that attention component.
Once he sees the teacher saying good and applauding the other kids on following her commands, he will also follow suit.
Best regards - Dr Sumanth Amperayani
Best way is to ignore it and tell other kids to do what she wants he will
Detailed Answer:
Hello...best way is to ignore this abnormal behaviour and she should be telling the other kids and directing them what to do and give them positive reinforcement by applauding them.
Whatever he does is getting attention, either positive or negative and that is the reason why he is doing it even more.
We should be taking off that attention component.
Once he sees the teacher saying good and applauding the other kids on following her commands, he will also follow suit.
Best regards - Dr Sumanth Amperayani
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Brief Answer:
Best way is to ignore it and tell other kids to do what she wants he will
Detailed Answer:
Hello...best way is to ignore this abnormal behaviour and she should be telling the other kids and directing them what to do and give them positive reinforcement by applauding them.
Whatever he does is getting attention, either positive or negative and that is the reason why he is doing it even more.
We should be taking off that attention component.
Once he sees the teacher saying good and applauding the other kids on following her commands, he will also follow suit.
Best regards - Dr Sumanth Amperayani
Best way is to ignore it and tell other kids to do what she wants he will
Detailed Answer:
Hello...best way is to ignore this abnormal behaviour and she should be telling the other kids and directing them what to do and give them positive reinforcement by applauding them.
Whatever he does is getting attention, either positive or negative and that is the reason why he is doing it even more.
We should be taking off that attention component.
Once he sees the teacher saying good and applauding the other kids on following her commands, he will also follow suit.
Best regards - Dr Sumanth Amperayani
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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