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I've Become Psychologically Dependent On Viagra . My On/off Again

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Posted on Thu, 11 Jul 2019
Question: I've become psychologically dependent on Viagra. My on/off again nurse GF came over and I had sex with her. I did oral on her and she did a HJ on me and I came without ever getting hard. That's never happened. I'm extremely fit for my age or any age so I know it's not physical. I wake up with morning wood 2-3 times a week so I know there's nothing wrong physically.
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Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (5 hours later)
Brief Answer:
There is treatment for psychological erectile dysfunction

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using Healthcareamgic.

I read your query and understand your concerns.

First of all I like to assure you that there is nothing to worry as all forms of erectile dysfunctions are treatable on this day.

Now regarding problem I like to inform you that psychological ED or performance anxiety can be handled with use of right psycho therapeutic approach. In my own experience around 70% of individuals report dramatic improvement in erections once the psychotherapy is started leading to decrease in performance anxiety.

Below here I am delineating few of the strategies which will help you in the problem.

Firstly get rid of thoughts that you may be sexually inadequate or your doubts that you may not be able to perform properly. This is because performance anxiety, feelings of sexual indequacy, self-doubts, guilt, past negative sexual experiences, poor communication / understanding with the partner, etc. can all affect sexual functioning and performance. Removing such ideas will eliminate the majority of causes for your poor sexual performance. Removing the person's doubts and fears, and improving his self-confidence levels will definitely help in improving sexual performance.

Remember that sex is not just a physical act but also a psychological process involving an expression of emotions, intimacy and love. So, just involve yourself in those feelings and stop focusing on your "performance" alone. Once you do that, then I assure you that your sexual performance will automatically improve.

Most importantly, performance anxiety soon becomes a "vicious cycle" That is, anxiety leads to poor performance and poor performance then leads to further anxiety and this keeps on increasing.

One more problem responsible for performance anxiety is inadequate sexual arousal. When the person is not properly aroused, the blood flow to the penis is not maximal, and so, after a few strokes, the erection weakens and ejaculation occurs. The way to tackle this is not to rush into intercourse quickly, but wait till you get fully aroused. So, increase and spice-up your foreplay. Make sure that you initiate penetration only after both of you are fully turned on. Good foreplay not only arouses you but also sparks off the mood in your partner. So, when she is also aroused and involved, then things keep flowing smoothly and effortlessly, and you don't have to be constantly anxious if you are satisfying your partner or not.

Distract yourself stop "monitoring" your sexual performance. Try putting on some romantic music or mild lighting while you make love. Think about the things that turn you on. Taking your mind off of your sexual performance can remove the worries that are stopping you from getting fully aroused.

Wish you all the best in your sexual health.

I hope this helps you.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.

In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:
http://doctor.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-ashok-kumar/67386
Thanks and regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (1 hour later)
Thank you Dr. this was a thoughtful answer. Now I just have to implement. Do you
recommend any breathing exercises or meditation?
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Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
Follow up

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for follow up.

I am glad to know that information was well placed and suited your needs.

Meditation and yoga have their own role and can be used. However I feel one step each time will bring better results than multiple steps at one time.

I hope this helps you further.
Thanks and regards.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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I've Become Psychologically Dependent On Viagra . My On/off Again

Brief Answer: There is treatment for psychological erectile dysfunction Detailed Answer: Hello, Thanks for using Healthcareamgic. I read your query and understand your concerns. First of all I like to assure you that there is nothing to worry as all forms of erectile dysfunctions are treatable on this day. Now regarding problem I like to inform you that psychological ED or performance anxiety can be handled with use of right psycho therapeutic approach. In my own experience around 70% of individuals report dramatic improvement in erections once the psychotherapy is started leading to decrease in performance anxiety. Below here I am delineating few of the strategies which will help you in the problem. Firstly get rid of thoughts that you may be sexually inadequate or your doubts that you may not be able to perform properly. This is because performance anxiety, feelings of sexual indequacy, self-doubts, guilt, past negative sexual experiences, poor communication / understanding with the partner, etc. can all affect sexual functioning and performance. Removing such ideas will eliminate the majority of causes for your poor sexual performance. Removing the person's doubts and fears, and improving his self-confidence levels will definitely help in improving sexual performance. Remember that sex is not just a physical act but also a psychological process involving an expression of emotions, intimacy and love. So, just involve yourself in those feelings and stop focusing on your "performance" alone. Once you do that, then I assure you that your sexual performance will automatically improve. Most importantly, performance anxiety soon becomes a "vicious cycle" That is, anxiety leads to poor performance and poor performance then leads to further anxiety and this keeps on increasing. One more problem responsible for performance anxiety is inadequate sexual arousal. When the person is not properly aroused, the blood flow to the penis is not maximal, and so, after a few strokes, the erection weakens and ejaculation occurs. The way to tackle this is not to rush into intercourse quickly, but wait till you get fully aroused. So, increase and spice-up your foreplay. Make sure that you initiate penetration only after both of you are fully turned on. Good foreplay not only arouses you but also sparks off the mood in your partner. So, when she is also aroused and involved, then things keep flowing smoothly and effortlessly, and you don't have to be constantly anxious if you are satisfying your partner or not. Distract yourself stop "monitoring" your sexual performance. Try putting on some romantic music or mild lighting while you make love. Think about the things that turn you on. Taking your mind off of your sexual performance can remove the worries that are stopping you from getting fully aroused. Wish you all the best in your sexual health. I hope this helps you. If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you. In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link: http://doctor.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-ashok-kumar/67386 Thanks and regards.