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My 10 Yr Old Has Some Behavioral Issues
Question: Hi,
My son, 10 yr old, has some behavioral issues like below
. He is Impatient
. Lazy to act and react.We have to tell 10 times to get the work done, only then he acts, after scolding
. He keeps telling blunt lies, we have warned him several times but he wont listen
. he is not open minded to put his thoughts openly.
. he cry immediately if he gets hurt by mistake from us.. but that hurt will be negligible. May be he overreacts.
. No smile when talking to others..when we go to hometown. he is not a jolly and easy going boy, he is always in serious mode.
. doesn’t pay attention to details or makes careless mistakes.. like go and find remote.. he don't take much effort to find it ( impatient)
. he dont reply when we call him..only after shouting at him , he do. only after scoulding he do listen for a moment.
. sometime he is overconfidence like I know things.
. He is shy.. when we go to shops,etc, he wont talk to shopkeeper openly.
. when asked to read any general book , he just reads without trying to understand its meaning. He just read for the sake of it
. He act without much thinking
My son, 10 yr old, has some behavioral issues like below
. He is Impatient
. Lazy to act and react.We have to tell 10 times to get the work done, only then he acts, after scolding
. He keeps telling blunt lies, we have warned him several times but he wont listen
. he is not open minded to put his thoughts openly.
. he cry immediately if he gets hurt by mistake from us.. but that hurt will be negligible. May be he overreacts.
. No smile when talking to others..when we go to hometown. he is not a jolly and easy going boy, he is always in serious mode.
. doesn’t pay attention to details or makes careless mistakes.. like go and find remote.. he don't take much effort to find it ( impatient)
. he dont reply when we call him..only after shouting at him , he do. only after scoulding he do listen for a moment.
. sometime he is overconfidence like I know things.
. He is shy.. when we go to shops,etc, he wont talk to shopkeeper openly.
. when asked to read any general book , he just reads without trying to understand its meaning. He just read for the sake of it
. He act without much thinking
Brief Answer:
Behavior disorder
Detailed Answer:
Hello and welcome
I have read your query.
There are some elements of behavior disorder and there seems to be an underlying stress. I would have labelled it as oppositional defiant disorder but he doesnot seem to be having all the traits. Some traits are just normal like acting without much thinking, not putting effort in work that he doesnot want to do like finding remote, overconfidence, not replying or responding. You may consult a psychiatrist for proper diagnosis.
If you take appropriate steps, then this can be easily managed. My advice is as follows:
- Caregivers and parents avoid getting angry around him and try to be easy going. Keep a lot of patience and control over yourself especially when he is around.
- Get his hearing and vision tested. Also get him tested like complete blood count, liver function test, thyroid function test, blood pressure, fasting blood sugar.
- Avoid giving him sugary foods and drinks. His food should be nutritious.
- Address the stressor e.g if you think that some company is not good for him, then avoid it
- Involve him in activities like music, dance, sports, drawing
- Must do some yoga, meditation or breathing program for kids e.g utkarsh yoga that can be repeated monthly. This should be tried before trying any medicines. This can help overcome fears and relax his mind.
- Behavior therapy by counsellors
- Allow him to familiarize and talk to strangers or new people by himself.
- Allow him to have his food and do his activties by himself at his own pace.
Don't worry he will be ok.
Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards
Dr Vaishalee
Behavior disorder
Detailed Answer:
Hello and welcome
I have read your query.
There are some elements of behavior disorder and there seems to be an underlying stress. I would have labelled it as oppositional defiant disorder but he doesnot seem to be having all the traits. Some traits are just normal like acting without much thinking, not putting effort in work that he doesnot want to do like finding remote, overconfidence, not replying or responding. You may consult a psychiatrist for proper diagnosis.
If you take appropriate steps, then this can be easily managed. My advice is as follows:
- Caregivers and parents avoid getting angry around him and try to be easy going. Keep a lot of patience and control over yourself especially when he is around.
- Get his hearing and vision tested. Also get him tested like complete blood count, liver function test, thyroid function test, blood pressure, fasting blood sugar.
- Avoid giving him sugary foods and drinks. His food should be nutritious.
- Address the stressor e.g if you think that some company is not good for him, then avoid it
- Involve him in activities like music, dance, sports, drawing
- Must do some yoga, meditation or breathing program for kids e.g utkarsh yoga that can be repeated monthly. This should be tried before trying any medicines. This can help overcome fears and relax his mind.
- Behavior therapy by counsellors
- Allow him to familiarize and talk to strangers or new people by himself.
- Allow him to have his food and do his activties by himself at his own pace.
Don't worry he will be ok.
Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards
Dr Vaishalee
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Most of the time, we as parents get irritated as he don't listen at all. He listen only when we scold him. At the same time he is becoming very lazy. Any nutritious tonic/medicine can help?
Brief Answer:
I can only think of anti-depressants
Detailed Answer:
Hi again,
Lazyness is a sign of low energy state/ depression and these could be related to stress. As parents you can involve him in healthy activities. But allow him to decide how much he wants to be involved in it. Anti-depressants could be too strong at this tender age and need psychiatric prescription.
I would suggest the following:
- XXXXXXX XXXXXXX Tattva XXXXXXX Rasanyan syrup half teaspoon once daily for 10 days. If needed, you can continue it longer, if he is having its good effects. This is an ayurvedic preparation.
- Enrol him in yoga, meditation classes as this helps in restoring energy. This has added benefit alongwith medicine. If started before medicines, it may help in preventing the need for medicines.
- Music therapy: play some soothing chants or music around him
Regards,
Dr Vaishalee
I can only think of anti-depressants
Detailed Answer:
Hi again,
Lazyness is a sign of low energy state/ depression and these could be related to stress. As parents you can involve him in healthy activities. But allow him to decide how much he wants to be involved in it. Anti-depressants could be too strong at this tender age and need psychiatric prescription.
I would suggest the following:
- XXXXXXX XXXXXXX Tattva XXXXXXX Rasanyan syrup half teaspoon once daily for 10 days. If needed, you can continue it longer, if he is having its good effects. This is an ayurvedic preparation.
- Enrol him in yoga, meditation classes as this helps in restoring energy. This has added benefit alongwith medicine. If started before medicines, it may help in preventing the need for medicines.
- Music therapy: play some soothing chants or music around him
Regards,
Dr Vaishalee
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thanks Mam. Also, at this age , he cries if I don't give him ice-cream whenever he asks for.
Brief Answer:
Can you tell me his weight?
Detailed Answer:
Hi again,
Can you tell me his exact age and weight? Icecream has higher calories and maybe he needs some extra calories for his growth.
It is ok for kids to cry if mom doesnot give some toy or food. It is normal. In fact by crying, they open up their airways, take in more oxygen and also vent out their anger. This is normal.
Regards
Dr Vaishalee
Can you tell me his weight?
Detailed Answer:
Hi again,
Can you tell me his exact age and weight? Icecream has higher calories and maybe he needs some extra calories for his growth.
It is ok for kids to cry if mom doesnot give some toy or food. It is normal. In fact by crying, they open up their airways, take in more oxygen and also vent out their anger. This is normal.
Regards
Dr Vaishalee
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
33 Kg.
Brief Answer:
He is growing fine
Detailed Answer:
Yes, he is growing fine for his age.
If you handle with patience and positivity, he will grow up to be a healthy adult.
Regards,
Dr Vaishalee
He is growing fine
Detailed Answer:
Yes, he is growing fine for his age.
If you handle with patience and positivity, he will grow up to be a healthy adult.
Regards,
Dr Vaishalee
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vaishalee Punj
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