My Husband Spent 10 Years In Prison, He Got Out

Posted on Wed, 16 Sep 2020

Question: My husband spent 10 years in prison, he got out last year. He's trying to build up stamina, he's the minute man at this point. Can that happen on it's own or does he need to jerk off daily and regulate himself. Do we need to have more sex and over time it will build or can he eat or drink something and it will last. Please help with any answers he's frustrated at this point and I want to help

Answered by Dr. Olgeta Xhufka (2 hours later)

Brief Answer:
He can try both behavioural therapy and lidocaine spry .

Detailed Answer:
Hello dear, welcome to Ask a doctor's service.
I read your query and here is my advice.

I think that he is having psychological stress which is causing premature ejaculation.
You both have to work on your relationship supporting him psychologically and rebuild the relationship.
He has to try both the behavioural therapy and medications help to avoid the premature ejaculation.
He can masturbate before intercourse in order to be able to keep it longer.
Also you both may focus more on foreplay , sexual play and not have intercourse for a while in order to remove pressure from sexual encounter.
You can also use climax control condoms which are thick and with benzocaine which reduce sensitivity.
Also he can use lidocaine or benzocaine spray 15 minutes before intercourse to reduce sensitivity.

Hope I have answered the question.
Let me know if I can assist you further.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vaishalee Punj

Follow up: Dr. Olgeta Xhufka (3 days later)

is it possible that his stamina increase on it's own. We have not had sex in a while I was giving him time to figure it out. But I was getting frustrated so after the initial question we did and things seem to have changed he's no longer ejaculating prematurely but nothing has changed in or relationship and we have not had any sex in a while. Now don't want to put you on the spot, stress removed from senario. To me that would mean he has been say shopping elsewhere and getting practice would that make sense. He has not be masturbating, he has been having sex with me.

Answered by Dr. Olgeta Xhufka (4 hours later)

Brief Answer:
See advices below.

Detailed Answer:
Hello dear and thank you for asking again.
Exercising especially cardio may help him to increase stamina. He may need to keep a healthy diet with omega 3 rich foods, eggs , garlic, bananas, chilli peppers etc.
Also masturbating often may be helpful.
I think this is probably related to stress or psychological issues.
You have to support him in this moment, have sex more often and this will improve his stamina. You have to be patient and comprehensive to him.
Let me know if I can assist you further.

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Prasad