Question: my partner is an alcoholic... if we do drink together (occasionally) he drinks large glasses of champagne while I drink small ones and sip it. Then he gets abusive and we argue. The next day he tells me (and this happens alot) .. that hes had enough of MY drinking...lol Its so hypocritical and I dont want to drink much anyway, however if I have a friend over or go somewhere on my own, its my right to choose what I do, not his. I feel hes blaming me for something he doesnt like in himself. This morning he woke me up at 300am.. (not drinking, just annyoyed) and said hes had enough of me and Im evil and hes sleeping on the lounge from now on. I feel no remorse at this point as I have noticed that his mood swings are pretty full on and he has a very short temper. My question is... IS it ok to just say, listen, dont push me to do things you want me to do as if pushes me the other way. Also, I feel I need to stand up for my freedom of choice. Im happy not to drink with him.. the sad thing is, most of the time he asks me to have one and as I work so hard and dont go anywhere much, sometimes it is tempting. Lately ive not drank much so its been ok, as Ive said Im going to bed at about 930 and he usually follows (after sculling another two big glasses usually). Im happy just to have a few but not happy to feel controlled into doing what he says, especially when hes doing the opposite. What do you think?