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Problem To Have Orgasm. Feel Happy Emotionaly But Not Physically Or Pleasure In My Body Part

Posted on Fri, 25 Oct 2013

Question: hello how r u iam 21 female.
i have a problem to have orgasm or even Sexual Ecstasy. i love to do sex with a man i luv him i feel i want him and feel iam happy emotionaly very much when he aproaches me or my body but not physically or pleasure in my body part. it likes happy and emotional sexual feelings and have a desire to touch my body and touch his body but not sexual ecstasy in my body part . while the sexual banter makes me feel happy emotionaly but not a sexual pleasure feeling in my body or skin . i tried sex with other men same problem and even no emotional feeling. but there is one when he kissed me smoothly i felt pleasure in my lips but not like the situation when i was 14 although the guy i luv always kissing me smoothly and it makes me feel happy emotionaly not pleasure in my lips.i tried to be kissed from woman( because they told me maybe iam a lezbo) and same thing no pleasure in feelings. when i was 14 my first sexual try was with a woman it wasnt complete sex but i felt so much pleasure in my body and lips and even breast nipples like the part getting relaxed and like the feeling of orgasm in clitoris but it happens in the lips or even nipples and had so many orgasm and sexual ecstasy and its more even the guy who i felt relaxed when he kissed me. also i can reach orgasm while doing hand job by rubbing my clitoris with pen or even my bed and openning my legs and i learned this habbit from i was 14

Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy (1 hour later)

Brief Answer:
Anorgasmia

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query.
I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.
The problem that you are having is called anorgasmia. In this although you can perform sexual act and enjoy it buy you wont reach the orgasm. The most common cause is depression.You will have to XXXXXXX a psychiatrist who can evaluate for depression.
Sildenafil, a drug mostly used my males, is also useful for women to improve the orgasm.
Regarding you having pleasure with the same sex person, at the age of 14 its very common to experiment with your sexual preferance and many people try to do it. But from what you have stated, it appears that you are hetrosexual.
Regarding using objects for stimulating clitoris, there are proper sex toys available which you can use. you should refrain yourself from using objects such as pen which can harm your body.
Hope I am able to answer your concerns.
If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.
If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for me, so that I get a good feedback.
In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:
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Wish you good health,
Kind regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy M.D.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Srikanth Reddy (1 hour later)

is also not feelings pysical pleasure in the part like lips or nipples is anorgasmia?
and why when i was 14 i felt physical pleasure in my body parts ?

Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy (8 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Yes it is

Detailed Answer:
Hello
Hello
Thanks for the follow-up.
The pleasure feeling has certainly gone down since you were 14 yrs.
As I said before it could be anorgasmia.
Generally when you are reaching orgasm, the nipples become erect. It may not be so in your case as there is a problem.
As i said before, depression is the main offender. First it has to be taken care of.
Second thing I was getting concerned is that you are having multiple sexual partners. Are all your sexual encounters protected. With the rise in AIDS, one has to be careful. Are they all your boyfriends?
Hope that helps.

If you have any further queries let me know.
In future as well if you want to contact me, you can do so on
bit.ly/dr-srikanth-reddy
Regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy MD

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Srikanth Reddy (5 hours later)

ok what they call the physical pleasure feeling and the feeling of relaxed in muscles in nipples or lips while kissed or licked ?

Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy (16 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Stages of orgasm

Detailed Answer:
Hello
They are all part of the stages of orgasm.
Men have only one orgasm during a sexual act.Whereas women have multiple orgasms. The orgasms may occur even without penis insertion but other sexual acts as well.
You have asked this question...do you have any problem with the erection of the nipples?
Regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy
Sexologist

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Srikanth Reddy (9 hours later)

i dunno about nipples erection iam not sure. but i understood feeling pleasure in lips while kissing or nipples is a stage of orgaam although the woman sometimes doesnt cum but viscous liquied came down (iam not english i dont know what they call it) is it true what i understood?

Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy (9 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Yes its normal for the viscous fluid to come down

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

Thanks for choosing health care magic for posting your query.

I have gone through your question in detail and I can understand what you are going through.

Yes its normal for the viscous fluid to come down. Many women have this. Some have less and some have more. Its all a part of the orgasm.

Hope I am able to answer your concerns.

If you have any further query, I would be glad to help you.

If not, you may close the discussion and if possible you may rate the answer for me, so that I get a good feedback.

In future if you wish to contact me directly, you can use the below mentioned link:

bit.ly/dr-srikanth-reddy

Wish you good health,

Kind regards

Dr. Srikanth Reddy M.D.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Srikanth Reddy (1 hour later)

ok thank u very much i will tell if any thing new happen to me in ur link before i will close it . tell me as a woman how can i protect my self from aids while sex with men or even woman? and.my friend.advised me.to try drinking before sex

Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy (5 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Use condoms

Detailed Answer:
Hello
Always use condoms while having sex. Insist on your male partner to wear condom before sex. If he doesnt agree then you should wear a female condom.
Nothing else helps.
Try to have sexual relationships with only a single partner.
Drinking alcohol doesnt help.
Let me know if you have any further queries.
You can always use the link i had forwarded to you.
Regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Srikanth Reddy (2 hours later)

no it does help because i tried once before 4 months i got crazy and very hapoy and activated in sexual relationship

Answered by Dr. Srikanth Reddy (4 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
Clarification

Detailed Answer:
Hello
You are right in stating that you tend to have more fun and activated if you have sex after taking alcohol. What I meant to say was taking alcohol wont help in preventing the HIV/AIDS.
I guess you had asked about the prevention from HIV and AIDS in your last question, and thats when i stated that alcohol doesnt help.
I future if you need any further help you can contact me on
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or YYYY@YYYY
Wish you good health

Regards
Dr. Srikanth Reddy MD

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar