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Suggest An Appropriate Way To Handle Toddler Masturbation

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Posted on Fri, 13 Jan 2017
Question: My daughter is 4 and was laying on the bed with me and took my hand to try and rub her genitals on it. Is this normal behavior? I am her mother by the way.
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Answered by Dr. Diptanshu Das (1 hour later)
Brief Answer:
It is normal.

Detailed Answer:
Thanks for asking on HealthcareMagic.

I have gone carefully through your concern. Incidentally yes, it is normal behavior. It so happens that often inadvertently the genitals of children get rubbed against something or the other and they get a pleasurable sensation from it, without having any idea about its significance. Babies discover their genitals just as they learn about other body parts - by reaching for them, and then learn that they are a source of pleasurable sensations. The innocent repetition of what feels good is an entirely normal part of the process of self-discovery and play. In this case, since you are naturally the confidante of your daughter, she has shared her "discovery" with you.

Despite your XXXXXXX and discomfort, try not to react negatively or make judgmental comments if you catch your child in the act. Such a response will only make your child feel ashamed. As with other habits, overreacting can have the opposite effect of preventing further episodes - your child may just do it even more, which will make her feel guilty and decrease her self-esteem. Rather, if you ignore it, it will seem nothing extraordinary and therefore would not get highlighted as a zone of "extra attention". Probably that is what you should do.

Regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Veerisetty Shyamkumar
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Follow up: Dr. Diptanshu Das (13 minutes later)
Thank you so much for your thorough answer means alot!!
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Answered by Dr. Diptanshu Das (1 minute later)
Brief Answer:
Glad to be of service.

Detailed Answer:
I am glad to know that it helped. Feel free to contact me back directly if you ever have a health related query in the future.

Regards
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Veerisetty Shyamkumar
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Suggest An Appropriate Way To Handle Toddler Masturbation

Brief Answer: It is normal. Detailed Answer: Thanks for asking on HealthcareMagic. I have gone carefully through your concern. Incidentally yes, it is normal behavior. It so happens that often inadvertently the genitals of children get rubbed against something or the other and they get a pleasurable sensation from it, without having any idea about its significance. Babies discover their genitals just as they learn about other body parts - by reaching for them, and then learn that they are a source of pleasurable sensations. The innocent repetition of what feels good is an entirely normal part of the process of self-discovery and play. In this case, since you are naturally the confidante of your daughter, she has shared her "discovery" with you. Despite your XXXXXXX and discomfort, try not to react negatively or make judgmental comments if you catch your child in the act. Such a response will only make your child feel ashamed. As with other habits, overreacting can have the opposite effect of preventing further episodes - your child may just do it even more, which will make her feel guilty and decrease her self-esteem. Rather, if you ignore it, it will seem nothing extraordinary and therefore would not get highlighted as a zone of "extra attention". Probably that is what you should do. Regards