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Suggest Medication For Erectile Dysfunction During Intercourse

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Posted on Mon, 25 Sep 2017
Question: i am a 28 year old male recently married a year ago .
i am unable to maintain erection during intercourse but i am perfectly able to maintain erection at other times other than having sex and watching porn can easily get me aroused, please help
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Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (29 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
Please provide more details

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for using Healthcaremagic.

Before we can make any conclusions I request you to provide following details so an impression can be made about the cause of problem.

1. How long you are facing problem with erections? Whether you noticed it after marriage or it really happened after marriage?

2. How the problem started whether it was sudden in onset or build up slowly over the months or years?

3. Frequency of the problem in a week/month ? Are you able to have some successful sexual intercourse?

4. In a typical month out of what number of sexual interactions do not achieve success?

5. What are the factors that increase the problem ?

6. Factors that relieve the problem- thoughts, situations, partner, place etc.

7. Do you get early morning erection?

8. If yes how frequent and how intense?

9. Your partner details- Is she very critical, demands sex more than what can you think, does she feel superior to you or bothers you in some other regards?

10. Effect on your relationship so far due to problem

11. Details of medical illness like duration, any complications, treatment received till date.

12. Medications you are receiving currently, if any including ayurvedic homeopathic or any other.

13. Medication you received in past and their effect?

14. Do you have any psychiatric illness (like anxiety, depression, fear)?

15. Investigations done till date and reports of most latest investigations- serum testosterone, TSH, T3, T4 and any other?


I must assure you that once we identify cause it will be easy to correct it.
I look forward to see more details.

Thanks and regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (2 hours later)
1) erection problem is after marriage only. i masurbate 4 to 6 a week but only porn can get me aroused
2) i guess it started after marriage in a slow process
3) i hadnt achieved successful intercourse as my wife feels discomfort if any thing larger than a finger is inserted into her
4) no 5) i do not know what factors caused it
6) i do not no 7) yes i get an early morning erection of pretty good quality 8) every morning i get erection
9) no she is a shy girl who hadnt rarely masturbated in her life via fingering. she used to cross her legs and squeezes them hard to achieve orgasm in her teens
10) we are not that worried as there is no force from my parents and her parents to conceive. i satisfy m
11) no medical illness regarding sexual health
12) no medications received
13) no medications received in the past
14) anxiety depression fear? I dont know as i hadnt got my self diagnosed
15) no medical diagnosis done
Pls suggest the kind of tests needed
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Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (12 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Follow up

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to me.

I am glad to inform you that her shyness and pain during coitus is responsible for inability to have intercourse and no other factors seems to be responsible for it. It can be stated that there is nothing abnormal with you as per the provided details and due to vaginismus experienced by your wife there is failure to intercourse.

As suggested in another query I request you to see a psychiatrist without delay. She needs little bit of counselling and understanding about the problem. I must assure you that in understanding couples there is good hope of complete recovery and it is important to seek timely intervention.

I hope this helps you further.
Feel free to write back to me if you have more questions.
I will be glad to answer you.

In future, if you wish to ask any more questions, you can use the below-mentioned link to contact me.

http://doctor.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-ashok-kumar/67386

Thanks and regards.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (32 minutes later)
i have been watching porn from my childhood ie., from past 12 years and i think my brain is rewired to get aroused while watching porn and this is bothering me while having realtime sex with my wife and i cannot maintain erection
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Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (40 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
This is irrational thought

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for follow up.

I like to inform you that watching porn have no permanent effect on brain and unlikely to be the cause for current problem.

I understand your thought pattern but it is usual to blame onself when encountered by a problem. This is specially true when we have inadequate knowledge about something emotional such as sexuality.

In my opinion rather than blaming yourself it is time to seek help from appropriate professional.

I hope this helps you further.
Thanks again.


Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (23 hours later)
also i would like to point out that during the years watching porn i have develeoped to what is referred to as penis panic, meaning i am highly obsessed and concerned about my penis size. i feel myself inferior to the people performing in porn and this has become a huge let down for me. how to combat this situation , i am 5.9 inches when erect
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Answered by Dr. Dr. Ashok Kumar Choudhary (5 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Follow up

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for follow up.

First of all I like to inform you that there is difference between reel and real life. As we see in the movies life is different from what is shown at screen and the same is true about porn movies.

What you see there in the movies is not real and is for just entertainment purpose. I also like to assure you that 5.9 inch is large than average as the average size of penis is just five inch and not more. You will be glad to know that you are among the people who have larger penis.

I hope this helps you further.
Thanks again.
Note: For further guidance on mental health, Click here.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Suggest Medication For Erectile Dysfunction During Intercourse

Brief Answer: Please provide more details Detailed Answer: Hello, Thanks for using Healthcaremagic. Before we can make any conclusions I request you to provide following details so an impression can be made about the cause of problem. 1. How long you are facing problem with erections? Whether you noticed it after marriage or it really happened after marriage? 2. How the problem started whether it was sudden in onset or build up slowly over the months or years? 3. Frequency of the problem in a week/month ? Are you able to have some successful sexual intercourse? 4. In a typical month out of what number of sexual interactions do not achieve success? 5. What are the factors that increase the problem ? 6. Factors that relieve the problem- thoughts, situations, partner, place etc. 7. Do you get early morning erection? 8. If yes how frequent and how intense? 9. Your partner details- Is she very critical, demands sex more than what can you think, does she feel superior to you or bothers you in some other regards? 10. Effect on your relationship so far due to problem 11. Details of medical illness like duration, any complications, treatment received till date. 12. Medications you are receiving currently, if any including ayurvedic homeopathic or any other. 13. Medication you received in past and their effect? 14. Do you have any psychiatric illness (like anxiety, depression, fear)? 15. Investigations done till date and reports of most latest investigations- serum testosterone, TSH, T3, T4 and any other? I must assure you that once we identify cause it will be easy to correct it. I look forward to see more details. Thanks and regards