Brief Answer:
At this stage, your child need love, affection, security and appreciation.

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Welcome to HCM
We understand your concerns

I went through your details. Your son is 8 year young. At this developmental period, he needs to be playful, mischief, impulsive, hyperactive up to one extent etc. Naturally, at this age period, children's attention span will be too low. Could be below one minute. They cannot be attentive to any given subject / object for more than one minute. That is the reason why, in schools, teachers use play techniques to teach them.

I am trying to convince you that the scenario with other children of the same age will also be the same and is general and natural. I agree that there will be some exceptions in the tune of less than 2%.

Therefore, play therapy is the best way to keep the children into their tasks. They learn while playing.

Another point to be noted: Children dislike everything which they feel that are thrust on. If you force your child do something, they just ignore or rebel. This happens at home only. At school they are mostly obedient. That is because, they know they are free at home. Parents are their well wishers and they need your support. So if you want your child to eat vegetables, don;t force it on, but eat yourself and just say how tasty.

While teaching your child-Do not force anything. Learn appreciating. Even if he writes a simple word from memory, appreciate him. Let him know that he is an individual and you parents respect his individuality. Please do not yell at him if he makes mistakes. If you do so, he will automatically cultivate a culture to ignore your yelling and do nothing if you yell.

In the nutshell, You need to be more patient with the child. Child will be impatient. You need to understand your child, he will not understand you as you require. You need to teach him according to the way he learns. You need to allow him time to play with other children outdoor, which increases the attachment between you and your child, he learns competitiveness, his energy will be utilised and he will be hungry etc.

Please keep in mind, at this stage, your child need love, affection, security and appreciation.

Just be sure, he will be alright. From the given description, I do not see any behavioral problem with him.

God bless you.

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Brief Answer:
CHILDREN LEARN FROM THEIR PARENT'S ACTUAL BEHAVIOR

Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX

I can understand your emotions.
I again reiterate, children at this age period are supposed to be demanding, mischief and impatient.

For you to confirm you may search internet for the behavioral / emotional developments of children between the ages of 6 to 12. Go through the resultant web pages and articles. You should more insight in that matter.

I do understand teachers complaints about your son's behavior. I can imagine that. Let me remind you, teachers are suppose to teach a child apt behavior towards the society. The moment children starts going to school and understand the society around you, they are detached from parents. Let me explain this. Before going to school your child is with you mostly less than 4 hours, but out of which almost all the time is robbed by morning rituals like studying, bath, preparation to school, food etc. After coming back from school, maximum you get to be with the child for less than 6 hours. But again that 6 hours (almost) is robbed by studying, homework, playing, prayer, food etc. You have to find time to be with your child so that you teach him lessons of culture / society / behavior etc. That usually happens for less than 30 minutes during dinner or during bed time. That too, because children't attitude, may not go well at all.

Therefore we have to accept the fact that your child is being with his teachers for almost 5 to 6 hours at school. In primary classes, one or two teachers interact. They are supposed to teach not only chapters from text books. Hope you can understand.

Therefore, do consider the teacher's complaint as it came from frustration. You love your child, be with him, appreciate him, be playful with him and never let him curse his teacher (or you curse or support his cursing). he needs you, your guidance, love, affection etc. You are a guide to your child, a guide who will show the actual path for him to move on in his path. Paths of VALUES, CULTURE.

Remember, CHILDREN LEARN FROM THEIR PARENT'S ACTUAL BEHAVIOR, NOT FROM THEIR VERBAL ABILITIES.

God bless you and your family.

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