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Suggest Treatment For Abnormal Behaviour Of A Child

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Posted on Wed, 13 Aug 2014
Question: My tenants daughter has many problems and I try not to get involved but she did involve my daughter this time and I really need some advice on how to handle this situation. My daughter is now 8 going on 9 in September. We have tenants living in an one bedroom apartment.It's this 9 year old girl, her mother, and her gram. My daughter came up to me yesterday an d told me that this girl has been touching her, I asked her calmly how and she said she tries to kiss my neck cheek and lips, also she tries to hump me. i then asked her if she ever tried to touch her vagina and she said yes but I stopped her but then she touched her own and said this is how your suppose to do it. My daughter said this has been going on since kindergarten. Just a little history about this girl, she has a problem that she poops herself and leaves it there. She also tell lies all the time and steels. About a year ago my I smelled something and asked her id she needs to go to the bathroom, she said no and I told her to try, there was poop everywhere and she wasn't concerned about it at all. She also stole some of my daughters toys and things from us, from then on she was not aloud in my house but I would let them play outside maybe once a month. I have no idea how she could of done these things to my daughter then she explained where it happened and when. My daughter never lies and was so upset over this she said she was having nightmare and couldn't sleep. I though she was having nightmares because of all the core curriculum testing. I am so distraught over this and tried to calm myself down, I did have a talk with the mother and told her everything this girl has done to my child, she doesn't believe me. I want them out of my apartment as of yesterday. My main concern is my daughter and I asked her if she wanted to talk to someone, she said no that telling me has helped her but she is still terrified of this girl. What steps should I take, should I call CPS on them This can't be normal behaviuor
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Answered by Dr. Sumanth Amperayani (4 hours later)
Brief Answer:
This is surely abnormal behavior

Detailed Answer:
Hi...it is definitely an abnormal behavior. Whether you report to CPS or not is a decision you should take yourself depending on the situation as you are the one who's facing it.
These are my thoughts -
1. The tenant's kid is showing definite abnormal patterns.
2. Best way is to avoid your kid's contact with her completely.
3. Talk to your kid lovingly & convincingly that it is wrong & that, doing a wrong thing hurts you.
4. By what you quote your kid seems to be very attached to you, show her that you trust her & believe what she says. But keep an eye in her...like tell her that she should never talk to the tenant's kid & also tell her gently that she should never lock her room.
5. You took a wise decision about getting the tenant vacated, but till that happens, be cautious.
6. The situation you quote gives me an impression that the tenant's kid might have been abused or the kid might have seen such scenario at home. But its to be decided after talking to the kid in detail.

This is a suggestion & not a Medicolegal opinion as I have not seen either of the kids.

Hope my suggestions will help you.
Regards - Dr. Sumanth
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Bhagyalaxmi Nalaparaju
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Follow up: Dr. Sumanth Amperayani (11 hours later)
Thank you for your suggestions, I really appreciate them. just needed to know that i did the right thing for my daughter and this little girl. I have tried to help this girl in the past, now i just want them out of my house and for my daughter to move on. My daughter has a wonderful relationship with both my husband and I thank my family and dear friends for that. The only left is what I should do for the other little girl. Something is not right, I have had parents come up to me , kids come up to me complaining about this girl. Unfortunately she lies all the time, and she tells her mother other stories and not the truth. The school wanted to do a house visit to thier apartment, it didn't get that far. The question rmains is, should I call CPS on them or try and talk to them again or hope they just leave quietly?
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Answered by Dr. Sumanth Amperayani (18 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
To report or not is a self made decision

Detailed Answer:
Hi...thanks for your trust in me.

Whether you report to child Protective Services or not is a decision you should take yourself depending on the situation as you are the one who's facing it or seeing the child's plight. After you complain when the officials come and if the child denies everything then unnecessarily you will be in trouble.

If I were in your position I would just make the tenants to vacate the house and take care of my own kid and feel happy about it. But I fully appreciate the way you think and your conscientious nature about that kid too. But if the kid herself turns hostile then things can take a nasty turn and I don't want that to happen.

I wish both kids a bright future. If you need any future medical consultation and suggestions, I will be glad to help. You can approach me at the following link. Please find the link below.
www.healthcaremagic.com/doctors/dr-sumanth-amperayani/67696

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Ashwin Bhandari
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Follow up: Dr. Sumanth Amperayani (5 hours later)
Thank you so much for that advice, as I have thought of that to but never thought I could get in trouble about it. If I know her as I do she definitely would lie and it would put me in a bad place. I don't need anymore problems. Once again thank you, I feel much better in the decisions I have to make. You were of great help
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Answered by Dr. Sumanth Amperayani (6 hours later)
Brief Answer:
Thank you so much

Detailed Answer:
I am glad that my advice helped you. I am happy to help any time. Further clarifications and consultations on Health care magic are welcome. If you do not have any clarifications, you can close the discussion and rate the answer. Wish your kid good health.
Dr. Sumanth MBBS., DCH., DNB (Paed).,
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Suggest Treatment For Abnormal Behaviour Of A Child

Brief Answer: This is surely abnormal behavior Detailed Answer: Hi...it is definitely an abnormal behavior. Whether you report to CPS or not is a decision you should take yourself depending on the situation as you are the one who's facing it. These are my thoughts - 1. The tenant's kid is showing definite abnormal patterns. 2. Best way is to avoid your kid's contact with her completely. 3. Talk to your kid lovingly & convincingly that it is wrong & that, doing a wrong thing hurts you. 4. By what you quote your kid seems to be very attached to you, show her that you trust her & believe what she says. But keep an eye in her...like tell her that she should never talk to the tenant's kid & also tell her gently that she should never lock her room. 5. You took a wise decision about getting the tenant vacated, but till that happens, be cautious. 6. The situation you quote gives me an impression that the tenant's kid might have been abused or the kid might have seen such scenario at home. But its to be decided after talking to the kid in detail. This is a suggestion & not a Medicolegal opinion as I have not seen either of the kids. Hope my suggestions will help you. Regards - Dr. Sumanth