Brief Answer:
Here are some suggestions:

Detailed Answer:
I see that another physician, Dr. Mehta, also responded to your question, so I will not cover the same information but will add additional information.

With the easy access to porn, some men find sexual relations with a real person difficult. When masturbating to porn, a man is able to control the entire situation and is also able to physically stimulate himself in the exact way he wants. This does not happen with intercourse with another person. With time, a person's mind and body can get used to masturbating to porn and even when excited by their partner, have difficulty with the live, real situation. I don't know if this applies to you, but it is a common problem.

If this is contributing to your difficulties, consider markedly decreasing masturbation to porn, and avoid it entirely before seeing your sexual partner.

The second thing is that for awhile, have sexual activity with your partner in ways other than intercourse, such as mutual masturbation. This will help get you used to having sex with your partner without the pressure for performance from intercourse. Do this for a few weeks.

When this is going well, and you are able to focus your mind on the moment, rather than on your performance or appearance, then try to resume intercourse again.

I hope this information helps.

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Brief Answer:
Your Welcome

Detailed Answer:
I hope that things go well for you in the future. If you have no further questions please go ahead and close the discussion.

Best wishes to you,
Bonnie Berger-Durnbaugh, MD

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