Suggest Treatment For Depression Caused By Unhappy Married Life

Posted on Tue, 3 Jun 2014

Question: Ok again I am writing, I have problem with my hubby, we are working in same organization but we never use take lunch . I eat alone but he never appreciate me. I work very hard wake up early in the morning cook food and prepare breakfast and lunch. and take care of my 8 year daughter .I unable to take sleep in the night. My hubby always appreciate his female colleague and and sometime say bad words about her also. but when say yes with his words then he shouted on me don't say anything to my colleagues. Frankly speaking he creates all the scenario in house for fighting and when I shout on those things then he said u r always fight. Even if he want sex I accept but when I need he said he is feeling tired. I don't know how many days this will go like this I am trying to manage. always allowing him to whatever he wants want to smoke, go party with colleagues or ffiends but I don't have anyone whom I can share this thing. Now my limit is over and I feel full depressed don't want to talk with anybody. even not with him also. He always crack joke about his female colleague but it seems he is saying true not joke as per my point of view. I feel totally depressed

Answered by Dr. Dr. Prasad J (22 hours later)

Brief Answer:
It is important to talk about your preferences....

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Apologies for the late reply. I was away from internet for awhile.

I went through your post with diligence and I believe you are facing with family problems which is not very uncommon. It does seem to affect your mental state. Though as a medical doctor, I can guide you and get this depression treated, but I feel the preference is to try and solve the primary problem.

Well, personally I feel couples take each others for granted. Especially in your situation where you work along side each other. You wish that your partner reacts and behaves in a manner you like and vice versa. It looks like there is significant communication gap between you two. Discuss amongst each other about likes, preferences, dislikes, etc. It is evident that you do not like your husband behaving in this manner. Make sure he knows that.
Take a break from work. Perhaps it will give you both some time and space to discuss about each others preferences, likes and dislikes. Respect each others.

I hope this small improvements in communication helps you solve the current problem. Depressive complaints can then be well handled with medications and therapy.

Regards

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar