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Question: Hi, I am having trouble ejaculating with my partner - takes too long - I have no problem getting or keeping an erection. Yes I am 75 but have not had this problem but for the last year. Also my wife died 10 months ago but I am healthy at least physically. How can I speed up 'the moment'.
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Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXX,
Thanks for writing in to us.
I have read through your query in detail.
Your experience is shared by 1 in 3 men at your age and your penis requires more stimulation for ejaculation. There is weakening the pelvic floor muscles, whose contractions trigger an ejaculation. This leads to dribbling of semen and you miss the moment. Other contributing factors for this behavior include medical conditions, drugs, stress and loss of erotic focus.
As you have mentioned that your health is normal, I understand that you consult your doctors regularly and medical conditions or drugs are not the important causing your problem.
Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles can be done by doing kegel exercises. Please let your partner understand your needs well and what works for you. You can also try using lot of lubricant and focus on fantasies. Eat good meals so that you maintain the stamina to keep going till the end. Lastly, never give up on lifes little pleasures and have a close emotional relationship with your partner. This will work on the brain to speed up ejaculation. If you still need assistance then consulting a sex therapist is suggested.
Please feel free to correct any oversight in my interpretation of your problems and discuss them in detail as per your requirements.
Hope your query is answered.
Do write back if you have any doubts.
Regards,
Dr.Vivek
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Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXX,
Thanks for writing in to us.
I have read through your query in detail.
Your experience is shared by 1 in 3 men at your age and your penis requires more stimulation for ejaculation. There is weakening the pelvic floor muscles, whose contractions trigger an ejaculation. This leads to dribbling of semen and you miss the moment. Other contributing factors for this behavior include medical conditions, drugs, stress and loss of erotic focus.
As you have mentioned that your health is normal, I understand that you consult your doctors regularly and medical conditions or drugs are not the important causing your problem.
Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles can be done by doing kegel exercises. Please let your partner understand your needs well and what works for you. You can also try using lot of lubricant and focus on fantasies. Eat good meals so that you maintain the stamina to keep going till the end. Lastly, never give up on lifes little pleasures and have a close emotional relationship with your partner. This will work on the brain to speed up ejaculation. If you still need assistance then consulting a sex therapist is suggested.
Please feel free to correct any oversight in my interpretation of your problems and discuss them in detail as per your requirements.
Hope your query is answered.
Do write back if you have any doubts.
Regards,
Dr.Vivek
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