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Question: Hi Doctor - i am married for 4.5 years now an my marriage is on the verge of breaking as i have very less interest in sex. Our relationship has been very turbulent right from the start and this only makes matters worse. I do feel that frequent fight initially made me loose the drive. My wife conceived a baby 6 months after our marriage and we had jointly decided to abort the child. This also lead to some fear and reluctance on both our part to have sex again as I do not like it with a condom. I did not have a very high sex drive even before marriage and i suspect this could be due to masturbating too frequently right from my adolescent stage. I am a closet cross dresser from my adolescent but i am certain I am not transgender or XXXXXXX
Brief Answer:
Get you priorities in order
Detailed Answer:
Hello
Thanks for choosing HCM
You marital discord is due to your reduced interest in sex , and mutual fights make it worse, Sex derive is not reduced by masturbation . If you can get an erection while performing sex with your wife, cross dressing can't be an issue as well . I suppose there had been complete penetration as well.
I suppose your problem is arising due to mismatch of priorities in life. You need to consult a sexologist and psychiatrist to help you galvanize the life, You should forget about pregnancy for 3-6 months , Make love to be loved, not to be pregnant. Before all this, you must be thoroughly checked for the possibility of any factor blocking your pleasure and coming together both physically, mentally and sexually. You can visit www.vivanhospital.com for finding information and help.
DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA
Get you priorities in order
Detailed Answer:
Hello
Thanks for choosing HCM
You marital discord is due to your reduced interest in sex , and mutual fights make it worse, Sex derive is not reduced by masturbation . If you can get an erection while performing sex with your wife, cross dressing can't be an issue as well . I suppose there had been complete penetration as well.
I suppose your problem is arising due to mismatch of priorities in life. You need to consult a sexologist and psychiatrist to help you galvanize the life, You should forget about pregnancy for 3-6 months , Make love to be loved, not to be pregnant. Before all this, you must be thoroughly checked for the possibility of any factor blocking your pleasure and coming together both physically, mentally and sexually. You can visit www.vivanhospital.com for finding information and help.
DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thanks for your response doctor,
Can you please elaborate upon getting priorities in order. I do not fully understand that. Do you mean i should focus more on making love and not the quarrels we frequently have. Or do you mean something else? Please help me understand and resolve this situation and would be helpful if you can quote examples of what you mean. I do not want my marriage to fade away and looking for some solid help from you.
Can you please elaborate upon getting priorities in order. I do not fully understand that. Do you mean i should focus more on making love and not the quarrels we frequently have. Or do you mean something else? Please help me understand and resolve this situation and would be helpful if you can quote examples of what you mean. I do not want my marriage to fade away and looking for some solid help from you.
Brief Answer:
Please let me talk to your wife as well
Detailed Answer:
Hello
I shall be glad to help you but for marital discord, I need to talk to your wife as well. One sided counselling( only involving you) will not help a two sided issue ( arising between the two of you). You need to make some arrangement for a talk with your wife. By saying that you set your priorities right, I mean to give top priority to conjugal relationship and spending some quality time together. I need a committed and cooperative couple to work with and the results are very good indeed.
DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA
Please let me talk to your wife as well
Detailed Answer:
Hello
I shall be glad to help you but for marital discord, I need to talk to your wife as well. One sided counselling( only involving you) will not help a two sided issue ( arising between the two of you). You need to make some arrangement for a talk with your wife. By saying that you set your priorities right, I mean to give top priority to conjugal relationship and spending some quality time together. I need a committed and cooperative couple to work with and the results are very good indeed.
DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thanks again for your quick response doctor,
I have absolutely no issues in involving her in the discussions but I would not want her to know about my cross dressing. Is there a way we can consult you in person? we are located in XXXXXXX Also, you had mentioned about check-up for any factors that is blocking my pleasures, in your first answer. Can you let me know what type of tests and where I can get it done in XXXXXXX preferably South west XXXXXXX Thanks again for your responses.
I have absolutely no issues in involving her in the discussions but I would not want her to know about my cross dressing. Is there a way we can consult you in person? we are located in XXXXXXX Also, you had mentioned about check-up for any factors that is blocking my pleasures, in your first answer. Can you let me know what type of tests and where I can get it done in XXXXXXX preferably South west XXXXXXX Thanks again for your responses.
Brief Answer:
You need detailed evaluation
Detailed Answer:
Hello
I can assure you no information provided to me will be passed on to your wife . so relax. you can log on www vivanhospital.com . you can consult me in person in XXXXXXX . there can be psychological,endocrinal, physical, urological factors involved which need evaluation.
Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa
You need detailed evaluation
Detailed Answer:
Hello
I can assure you no information provided to me will be passed on to your wife . so relax. you can log on www vivanhospital.com . you can consult me in person in XXXXXXX . there can be psychological,endocrinal, physical, urological factors involved which need evaluation.
Dr Saatiish Jhuntrraa
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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