Question: I was asking a question to my father and then was deliberately interrupted by my mother. Then it was my fault for asking why she’d interrupted me (by her). Then she stormed off (oh you shouldn’t talk to me like that) . Is this behaviour similar to narcissism? I get the feeling my mother might be after she was diagnosed with OCD, it seems more than this.
I worry that I’ve become ‘brainwashed’ by my mother and her behaviour. I read about narcissism and don’t want to believe my mother is this way. Yet, I keep thinking it is true by her behaviour. If true, the need to remove away from her will become prevalent.
Sadly, all relationships involving her, end. She has no friends, can never get on with neighbours, she is like a bully to my farther (how I see it). She has fallen out with her family. She was apparently diagnosed with OCD, but swapped from a variety of physiatrists.
Just now, I was asking a question, and she interrupted asking if the mat was straight. Just as I was in the middle of my question, just as though to devalue what I was asking. It re-brings the feeling that something is wrong and that I’m in a negative environment and ‘false’ one that I need to remove myself from, possibly.
A recent family issue, I stuck up strongly for my mother, feeling she had been hard done to. I basically listened to her, did something (with her instructions), and then after doing it she began to start been nasty with me, playing with emotions.
I don’t want to fool myself, but at the same time don’t want to be paranoid (I’m feeling very mixed up). My mother looks in the mirror a lot especially after a haircut. Her whole family have had enough, and she blames them for her issues.
Things I remember growing up that don’t seem right:
-     My mother smashed up a console my father got me because she didn’t like the size of it.
-     My mother said she didn’t like children when I was a child in front of someone else who I think was a little shocked she said it in front of me
-     My mother has taken easy offence to my dad’s mother’s comments.
-     Everyone else is to blame, never her.
-     My mother attempted to steer the car into oncoming traffic whilst I was in the back seat of the car.
-     Rages were common on the past, with my father and me.
-     My dad Is weak, he seems to enjoy this behaviour (he also was caught dressing up as women)
Basically, it’s a yoyo of events. But, I’ve been questioning myself, thinking I must be totally paranoid – but my mother and her behaviour cannot be coincidence. Either all my family are wrong, or she is right. She shook my hand when I stood up for her, like it was some kind of business transaction (that isn’t normal), right?
What worries me is that I could react quite strongly after realising and waking up to the fact my mother is who I didn’t believe she was.
Please help.

Thanks for your reply. The idea for psychotherapy wouldn't be an option, because I'd be criticizing her for this recommendation.

Thanks for your reply. Sadly, things got bad tonight. I put my thoughts together below, hope you can give me some tips and advice before I close the discussion. Feeling sad :(

I was asking my dad a question and my mother butted in and I said I didn't like that. She stormed off. Then today I suggested she could apologise and she's gone on a complete rage and some of her behaviour is shocking and hurtful.
She kept saying I looked evil and was a nutter to question her. She was twisting things and raging and horrible. When my dad said your mother loves you as a question, she kept reflecting the question to her and wouldn’t answer it. She said things like she might never see me again.
"How dare I question her" She said. Just horrible and nasty. She cannot get on with anyone. I've had this when younger. I feel very unwell having to live with her after this. I tried to apologise (for what anyway??) but she didn’t want to hear it. She has no friends, has fallen out with the entire family "yet it's all their faults".
She was apparently diagnosed with OCD many years ago. But, I’ve started to consider it to possibly be elements of narcissism. Sadly, I said to her after all of this nasty behaviour that she was acting narcistic, then I was called a nutter.
She claims I was the one raging, which is laughable, because I was calm and trying to look away and she raged. She deflects everting from her to others, now it’s me. I’ve been ok but once you do something she doesn’t like, it goes on and on and on.
How do I deal with this situation and is she a narcacisit by behaving like this? I have bad anxiety because of my upbringing. So moving out seems hard, but an option I probably need to consider? How do I deal with a mother who has been so horrible?

Thanks for your reply. So you think she is a narcissist by her actions? Things seem fine until you question her and that's when she can explode and be a monster. She has this diagnosis of OCD, but I believe other psychiatrists (which she has switched and swapped from), might have wanted to give her a different diagnosis. But I remember her saying "Most psychiatrists are useless".
Also, I question myself as I do have bouts of paranoia, probably due to been raised in this way - so I keep thinking I am been paranoid. But I don't think so.

Thanks for your advice. I'll close the discussion now and give good rating.

Actually the close discussion button vanished when I replied. I think you need to reply for me to close.
Thanks