Question: Hi Doctor,
I am feeling guilty over previously I passive-aggressive told off a colleague and now this colleague talks to others but do not want to talk to me anymore. Previously I was discussing some work with another colleague and this colleague kept turning around to peep/look, see what we are talking about, despite she herself already being so busy. I became intolerant and let out the word, "busybody!" From then on, she been ignoring me. All along, when visitors come, she don't get up to press open door. So its usually me get up to press open door. But when boss want to come in, she quickly get up to press open door. Her such actions made me very detest her and I again passive-aggressively told another colleague "someone see me press open door/see visitors, she do not know how to get up to open. But when see boss, she quickly get up". that day she used our flask water till no more but she did not top up, I open to see if there is water and the steam almost scalded my finger. I also passive-aggressive told another colleague, "someone used all our water and did not top up. I ended up almost scald my finger." all of her antics made me detest her so causing me to voiced out such remarks. now that she is ignoring me, it makes me feel guilt am I doing the right thing?

Thank you doctor, this problem had been solved.

I have a new question. I wonder if my friend has narcissus disorder. she dresses up over sexily everyday, regardless of the event or environment, and will take photos of herself everyday in different sexy outfits but same background. she hurries me to quickly take pics of her. the dance formation that we had been practicing for several weeks, yesterday shown on the projector she asked me what is it and I told her its 'baby formation' and she still asked we have baby formation meh? If she is tired when we are walking she would keep repeating she is tired. things that I don't wish to reveal, she would still keep asking. when I am unable to rush to meet for dinner and I told her not to wait for me, she would ask why and she would still want to wait for me and tell me to hurry up because our programme starts at 7.30pm and must be there. in the end she says another aunty do not want to wait for us because we are slow in eating. I felt stress in this. does she has narcissus?

I myself feel very stress whenever others hurry me, or sometimes when it comes to making decisions, although I take just a mere one second or two seconds to think or reply

thank you doctor for reply. I feel extremely hypersensitive whenever anyone imitates my tone or replies. I feel being made fun of. I would have a very distress feeling and could quickly imagine myself confiding to my friend about this. but it has affected my relationship with my friend because the moment I saw my friend, I interrupted my friend's important conversation with others and my friend was wondering how come I could not hear the topic is important and I interrupt just to talk about my feelings of feeling being made fun of. Is it normal and natural during such state of mental anguish to be immune of what others conversations are going on?