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Suggest Treatment For Performance Anxiety After Marriage
Question: Hi there I am 30 and was a Virgin till now , just tried having sex for first time few days ago but was unable to insert partly coz of Lil hardness and lubrication I think .... next day I tried manforce and got errection and tried again but could not have it properly again I think coz of lubrication .... now I am really confused what to do as it is becoming embereasing.... and yes I use to masterbate a lot before I got married last week please suggest
Brief Answer:
Performance related anxiety
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for writing in to us.
I have read through your reply in detail.
You might be having performance anxiety after marriage. This is a very common problem in males who are just married. There are many ways by which you can solve your problem.
1. Try and have a long foreplay session. This will increase the intimacy between you and your wife. An emotional boned is more important than a physical one after marriage.
2. Communicate with your wife what she wants in a sexual relationship and try to please her in those ways. This can include various foreplay methods and oral sex if she is alright with it.
3. Indulge in mutual masturbation and go for sexual intercourse when your penis is firm enough.
4. Allow her to do lubrication for you and also try and have sex while watching sex related films if she is comfortable with it. This will increase the sexual tension and keep you excited for penetration.
5. Use enough lubrication jelly so that there is less friction between the penis and vagina.
6. Remain stress free when you attempt to have sex and put away your XXXXXXX phones.
Hope your query is answered.
Do write back if you have any further doubts.
Regards,
Dr.Vivek
Performance related anxiety
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for writing in to us.
I have read through your reply in detail.
You might be having performance anxiety after marriage. This is a very common problem in males who are just married. There are many ways by which you can solve your problem.
1. Try and have a long foreplay session. This will increase the intimacy between you and your wife. An emotional boned is more important than a physical one after marriage.
2. Communicate with your wife what she wants in a sexual relationship and try to please her in those ways. This can include various foreplay methods and oral sex if she is alright with it.
3. Indulge in mutual masturbation and go for sexual intercourse when your penis is firm enough.
4. Allow her to do lubrication for you and also try and have sex while watching sex related films if she is comfortable with it. This will increase the sexual tension and keep you excited for penetration.
5. Use enough lubrication jelly so that there is less friction between the penis and vagina.
6. Remain stress free when you attempt to have sex and put away your XXXXXXX phones.
Hope your query is answered.
Do write back if you have any further doubts.
Regards,
Dr.Vivek
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
So Dr I what if suppose above don't work
And what scares me the most is the fact that what if it doest get that hard at all
And what scares me the most is the fact that what if it doest get that hard at all
Brief Answer:
Above mentioned method works for most men
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX
Thanks for writing back with an update.
The problem you are experiencing is not a physical one but more of a psychological one. You feel that there are higher expectations from yourself towards your wife while having sex. This thought has to be changed slowly and will take a few days. Please follow the above mentioned methods with co operation from your wife. It will surely work for you.
Hope your query is answered.
Do write back if you have any further doubts.
Regards,
Dr.Vivek
Above mentioned method works for most men
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXXXXX
Thanks for writing back with an update.
The problem you are experiencing is not a physical one but more of a psychological one. You feel that there are higher expectations from yourself towards your wife while having sex. This thought has to be changed slowly and will take a few days. Please follow the above mentioned methods with co operation from your wife. It will surely work for you.
Hope your query is answered.
Do write back if you have any further doubts.
Regards,
Dr.Vivek
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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