HealthCareMagic is now Ask A Doctor - 24x7 | https://www.askadoctor24x7.com

question-icon

Suggest Treatment For Premature Ejaculation

default
Posted on Tue, 10 Feb 2015
Question: respected sir, my age is 26 and i m masturbating when i was 14, now since 5 years when i m getting exited either by watching porn or some exiting ideas my penis erects and within few seconds some kind of fluid comes out of it and my ejaculation time is very low about 1-2 minutes and i always think about sex and i think this will depress me and my partner while having real sex bcoz still i m virgin.so is it premature ejaculation or any other kind of other disease. Some docters told me that it is normal, and suggested me that try to get less exitements and try to quit masturbution and have a better diet with excercises and also to drink wheatgrass juice twice a day. I use milk, eggs, peanuts, carrot juice, buttermilk, dates, etc in my diet and also trying to leave masturbution. I also have better erection but this liquid leakage is disturbing me. Please suggest me with best knowledge. another question is m i still able to fulfill the sexual desire of woman and have sex till my age of 50 and above?
doctor
Answered by Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (48 minutes later)
Brief Answer:
You can satisfy woman as well as can do successful sex till age 50 & above

Detailed Answer:
Hello Young man,

Thanks for writing to us.

I can understand your concern.

Please understand following facts about masturbation.

Masturbation is natural habit of 90-95% of males in the world. It neither causes erection problem nor does it cause premature ejaculation. It is same process like sex, just the method differs. Whatever happens to penis in vagina during sex, same thing happens to penis in hand while in masturbation

It is natural that after exciting ideas or watching porn movies penis gets erected. After erection clear sticky fluid (It is not semen/ejaculation) comes out from penis which act as lubricant if penis is going to enter in vagina. It means penis is prepared for sex and entering in to vagina.

Ejaculation time varies in males from 1 to 5 minutes after fully excited erection. There is no specific time what we can call normal.
Premature ejaculation define as, "Male partner ejaculate so before that female partner cannot reach orgasm". You are virgin so it is not at all possible that you have premature ejaculation. Doctors are right that you are normal.

There is no need to quit masturbation. It helps to satisfy your sexual desire in a social harmless manner. No need to suppress your sex impulses. Continue your daily lifestyle with routine food what you enjoy as you mentioned above. Do masturbation when you feel to do so.

Your leakage problem will stop on its own if you continue masturbation regularly.

If you can masturbate well, you can do sex very for sure and for long and satisfy sexual desire of a woman.

Hope you understood explanation. If you feel you can consult psychiatrist/qualified sexologist for detail personal counseling.

Hope I have answered your query, feel free to ask if still any queries.

regards
Dr.Chintan Solanki.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Bhagyalaxmi Nalaparaju
doctor
default
Follow up: Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (27 minutes later)
Respected Sir, thnx for your advice but want to know, does masturbution effect the ejaculation time as i have already said my ejaculation time is 1-2 mins, so i think within 1-2 mins no woman will get satisfied. If i make change in my lifestyle by quiting masturbution, will this be beneficial in making my ejaculation time longer? Please prefer some natural ways for improving ejaculation time.

You also said in your answer that "Your leakage problem will stop on its own if you continue masturbation regularly." but its the same like before as i masturbate regularly. If according to you masturbution is fine, then how often we should do this, as i do everyday. More i maturbate, more liquid gets leaked.

I also have read on internet about few oils like olive oil, almond oil, jasmine oil, sandha oil for sexual well being, is there any benefit of these oils, if so prefer the best one.
doctor
Answered by Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (2 hours later)
Brief Answer:
No need to quit masturbation, no need of any oil

Detailed Answer:
Hello,

Thanks for follow up.

Sex is not only act of penis entering in to vagina and ejaculate. Sex also includes foreplay. In masturbation penis stimulation occurs directly with hand. In sex penis is stimulated by friction with vaginal wall. It will take more time for ejaculation when you will have sex. It is just only your apprehension that you can perform and satisfy woman or not. Considering your history you can satisfy woman once you become used to with sex

Following things are likely responsible for early ejaculation (1-2 minutes) in your case
-use of ayurvedic medicines(musli, ashvagandha, shatavar)
-use of healthy diet (milk, eggs, peanuts, carrot juice, buttermilk, dates, etc)
-try to leave habit of masturbation
All above factors lead to more production and accumulation of semen in your seminal glands and prostate. Because of more than enough quality this semen comes out instantly while it gets sexual stimulation.

You need to stop taking ayurvedic medicines as they are not needed. Continue healthy dies but do not take it in excess. Continue masturbation when you feel to do. These measures will help to maintain optimum quantity of semen in seminal vesicles and you will have regular ejaculation time as before. If you do masturbation in sequence two hours apart, second time ejaculation time will be prolonged.

I do not think you will have problem of premature ejaculation. It is just your over concern. If by chance if you have PME, treatment of it is also easily available.So no need to worry at all.

Your leakage problem is also likely due to factors mentioned above. With regular masturbation and above measures I suggested for prolong ejaculation will help to solve this. I mean that leakage without excitation.
But yes keep in mind that leakage is also due to sexual excitation. If you continue habits of watching porn and sexual thoughts, it leads to erection and leakage will be there and it is normal. For that you need to control these habits.
By chance if you cannot control these habits, you need to consult psychiatrist in personal for evaluation of this problem and psychotherapy to control these excessive thoughts.

There is no normal frequency of masturbation. It varies according to individual and depends on age, marital status, physique of body and environment.
Its frequency varies from once in a week to twice daily.
If someone has to masturbate compulsorily at cost of routine work or masturbation is creating problem in occupation and/or social life and stress than only it is something abnormal and require treatment. Otherwise masturbation should be done as and when person feels to do it.

Masturbation comprise of four phases: excitation, erection, ejaculation and resolution. Fluid discharge is going to occur after erection and it is completely normal.

Oils are there for lubrication. No direct effect on sex. No need of that in your case.

Hope you are satisfied with answer. If still any confusion,let me know.

http://bit.ly/drchintansolanki

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vaishalee Punj
doctor
default
Follow up: Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (40 hours later)
Respected Sir,
MAny issues are clear now, thnx for ur precious advises.
Still have few issues, that, many men(approx. 5/10) dont suffer from this liquid leakage situations on just exitement basis. Their liquid leakage proccess just goes only having sex(while penis inserts vagina). My point is their exitement level is highly controlled that they dont ejaculate on just getting exited like us and they are highly able to please their partner in reaching their orgasm. When asked to them, they just say, we rarly gets exited and masturbate(once/2 months or take more time) which helps to control exitement bcoz more u masturbate soon u will be exited.
For us, sex is bi-responsibily. 1st is for own pleasure and other is satisfying our partner by achieving her orgasm which totally depends on our sexual performance. If we fails in making them to achieve their orgasm then we will be a victim of premature ejaculation. So need to know the comman time that a woman achieve orgasm while sex but i know it varies individually and how we will know that they have achieved orgasm, as they dont ejaculate like us. Also need to know various daily routine to have very pleasing sexual life for both partners.

Somewhere i think that the reason behind this is heavy masturbution from a very early age around 13 yrs age. So if there is any littlebit decrement then oils can help me, but you said no need in your case, but still respects your views also want to know when oils must be used if they provide benefits. As you hav said performing masturbution depends on age, marital status, physique of body. in my case i m 26, single, very slim, so wht should be my frequency of masturbution. As i m also not focusing on my career, suffers from hair fall, memory loss and maybe social anxiety.

Another issue is that as i m a slim person can i marry a woman who is healthy than me bcoz people used to say that if your partner is healthier than you or having more weight than you(my weight is around 60kg and varies around this), or have more height,then you will not be able to satisfy her or not able to hold her which makes problems in enjoying different positions. These are the reasons that healthier women dont get attracted to slim peoples(i also hav noticed that healthier women dont attract to me comparing to slim women) just bcoz may be they think they may fail to satisfy them. As we are commanly attracted to a woman by their face,breast, butts so does a woman also give preferences to any of man's body parts to get attracted to them? 9/10 men think so seriously about their sexual life, do women also give too strong preference to their sex life? Which is more preferecable for woman while choosing their partner to have better looks or have a better ability to satisfy them?
doctor
Answered by Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki (15 hours later)
Brief Answer:
You need to consult psychiatrist personally for detail counseling

Detailed Answer:
Thanks for more queries.

Though detail asked by you requires very long narration, I would like to give answers as much short, precise and clear. But still I would like to say that you need personal counseling by a psychiatrist. As your issues require detail discussion and which is practically not possible with this forum.

Answer of your first paragraph:
Leakage is not ejaculation. It is just preparation of actual sex process in which to and fro movement of penis in vagina is there. Leakage will act as lubricant. Leakage occurs on excitement and it has no relation with ejaculation time. Masturbation does not affect sex performance. Please do not believe talk from someone. Consider view of experts.


Answer of your second paragraph:
There is no physical outcome of the orgasm in woman. It is just feeling like in heaven. Different woman describe it differently. Just ask woman to raise finger or say yes when she feels orgasm. It is the best way to know that she has achieved orgasm.
Sex is just few minutes’ process. Foreplay and daily romance is useful for healthy sex life.
Sleep, diet and exercise at proper time and in proper amount should be the routine schedule for daily lifestyle for pleasing sexual life.


Answer of your third paragraph:
You seem to have depressive features due to your concern of sexual problems. You need to be evaluated by psychiatrist for your stress and anxiety. I have already mentioned that do masturbation when you feel to do it. No rigid criteria of timing or frequency for that.When you desire do it.


Answer of your fourth paragraph:
No it is not that slim man can not satisfy healthy woman.
Most of the answers of your questions in last paragraph are quite vary in relation to individual culture, social norms, education and family values. From psychological point of view woman likes caring attitude and then physical structure overall (not specific body part) of a man the most. Woman’s attitude varies very high for sex life as per factors I just described.
For a woman overall caring attitude by a man is an important factor in choosing partner.

Hope I have answered your query.
If still any query there, I will be happy to answer.
If not, you can close the discussion and give your feedback which can help me to improve service.

In future you can contact me directly if you wish with this link:
http://bit.ly/drchintansolanki
Note: For further guidance on mental health, Click here.

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Vinay Bhardwaj
doctor
Answered by
Dr.
Dr. Dr. Chintan Solanki

Psychiatrist

Practicing since :2007

Answered : 2406 Questions

premium_optimized

The User accepted the expert's answer

Share on

Get personalised answers from verified doctor in minutes across 80+ specialties

159 Doctors Online

By proceeding, I accept the Terms and Conditions

HCM Blog Instant Access to Doctors
HCM Blog Questions Answered
HCM Blog Satisfaction
Suggest Treatment For Premature Ejaculation

Brief Answer: You can satisfy woman as well as can do successful sex till age 50 & above Detailed Answer: Hello Young man, Thanks for writing to us. I can understand your concern. Please understand following facts about masturbation. Masturbation is natural habit of 90-95% of males in the world. It neither causes erection problem nor does it cause premature ejaculation. It is same process like sex, just the method differs. Whatever happens to penis in vagina during sex, same thing happens to penis in hand while in masturbation It is natural that after exciting ideas or watching porn movies penis gets erected. After erection clear sticky fluid (It is not semen/ejaculation) comes out from penis which act as lubricant if penis is going to enter in vagina. It means penis is prepared for sex and entering in to vagina. Ejaculation time varies in males from 1 to 5 minutes after fully excited erection. There is no specific time what we can call normal. Premature ejaculation define as, "Male partner ejaculate so before that female partner cannot reach orgasm". You are virgin so it is not at all possible that you have premature ejaculation. Doctors are right that you are normal. There is no need to quit masturbation. It helps to satisfy your sexual desire in a social harmless manner. No need to suppress your sex impulses. Continue your daily lifestyle with routine food what you enjoy as you mentioned above. Do masturbation when you feel to do so. Your leakage problem will stop on its own if you continue masturbation regularly. If you can masturbate well, you can do sex very for sure and for long and satisfy sexual desire of a woman. Hope you understood explanation. If you feel you can consult psychiatrist/qualified sexologist for detail personal counseling. Hope I have answered your query, feel free to ask if still any queries. regards Dr.Chintan Solanki.