Brief Answer:
it is premature ejaculation

Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXXX,

Thanks for writing to us. I can understand your concern.

Many young men like you initially suffer from premature ejaculation during sex life. After good experience usually they can control their ejaculation. Simple practice makes the man perfect.

I would like to mention treatment for premature ejaculation.

Treatment for PME:

Medicines:
Clomipramine and paroxetine are choice of medicines which are used as antidepressants (For depression dose is higher).
I prefer clomipramine for PME. No significant side effects with this medicine.

Initially say for 0-30 days daily after dinner and later on just on the day when you do the sex.
Paroxetine is more potent but it may cause side effects like headache, gastric discomfort, giddiness and sedation.

One molecule called depoxetine has been used specifically for PME and should be taken before 2 hours of sex when required.

These medicines are prescription medicines and you need to consult doctor/psychiatrist/sexologist for prescription.


Behavioral approaches are as follows for your information:

1. Stop and Squeeze technique can be applied which you can learn from internet and ask me if any query in that.(In brief, method suggests that you should try to divert your mind for a moment when you feel ejaculation arousal and penis should be tightly squeezed with hand inwards by your partner preferably).

2. Kegel exercise also helps in some cases. You can learn the same from internet.

3. Sex counselling of your sexual behavior and methods. Like if you are down and female partner on top, gravity is going to help you for lengthening the time.

4. You should do masturbation before sex (at least 2 hours before). It will make seminal vesicles somewhat empty and at time of sex semen will take more time to come out. This is the mechanism why you can do well while you do second time.

Another approach:
-Use of condoms. It reduces sensitivity of glans penis and delays the ejaculation.

- Topical application of lignocaine anesthetic gel/spray. For this you have to consult doctor.

If I were your treating doctor I would like to give clomipramine with behavioral approaches.

Hope I have answered your query, I will be happy to help further.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.

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