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Question: Hi i just started dating someone whom i've know for a few years but recently we want to explore the romance department. we are great and the sex is great (i thought) but he cant come i think he thinks becuase we dont have a deep connection. we have only had 5 dates. im very attractive and have men pursuing me all day im 38 but look 25 and he is 52 i do alot of kegel excercises so tightness isnt a problem so im kind of looking for answers or i might tell him to go sleep with someone else...lost
Brief Answer:
Just give him some more time .
Detailed Answer:
HI
Thanks for posting your query to HCM .
The problem you have mentioned is only that he is not ejaculating ( Cuming ) . So I presume that there is no problem in his Erection, because unable to ejaculate with erection problem takes us in a different path altogether .
So the very fact that he gets erection means he is attracted to you sexually and that's enough for a man to cum into a woman .
So his inability to ejaculate could be either Psychological issue or some physical problem . I personally feel that he is bit anxious about his performance so give him more time , make him feel more comfortable and let him realize that it's not his performance but it's his love that matters to you .
In spite of giving few weeks time he is still feeling problem ejaculating then he needs some evaluation mainly for his prostate which if enlarged may cause Ejaculatory problem . In that case he should get Ultrasound Abdomen Pelvis and Serum PSA levels .
Overall give him some more time like 2 weeks , reassurance will help him and you .
Ant further query kindly revert back . Happy to help you .
Just give him some more time .
Detailed Answer:
HI
Thanks for posting your query to HCM .
The problem you have mentioned is only that he is not ejaculating ( Cuming ) . So I presume that there is no problem in his Erection, because unable to ejaculate with erection problem takes us in a different path altogether .
So the very fact that he gets erection means he is attracted to you sexually and that's enough for a man to cum into a woman .
So his inability to ejaculate could be either Psychological issue or some physical problem . I personally feel that he is bit anxious about his performance so give him more time , make him feel more comfortable and let him realize that it's not his performance but it's his love that matters to you .
In spite of giving few weeks time he is still feeling problem ejaculating then he needs some evaluation mainly for his prostate which if enlarged may cause Ejaculatory problem . In that case he should get Ultrasound Abdomen Pelvis and Serum PSA levels .
Overall give him some more time like 2 weeks , reassurance will help him and you .
Ant further query kindly revert back . Happy to help you .
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