Suggest Treatment For Severe Throat Infection

Posted on Sat, 25 Jun 2016

Question: Hi sir,

My name is XXXXXXX

I am 26 years old. When i was 7 i am molested by someone not once but multiple times (not raped but he used to take me his home and kissed me asked me to sleep with him. Later he said this to his friends they all pass comments and touch me improperly. As i was just a kid so don't understand much.) Later i have throat infection due to that my voice was not coming properly so again a new fear. Also bcz i was shy and for a boy cute and fair so faced many problem. Many men and boys try to seduced me. Two years back as well in a marriage a man try this and i have to leave the party. these all things has a serious effect on my personalty. I think a i am a homo now but i never had sex with any man or i could not do that. I have attraction towards girls as well but don't know i just feel comfortable with them or is it real attraction. I don't have sex with any girl either because i am too afraid of that. Now my family want me to get married but i don't understand what should i do. I never told them anything. But i want to understand this first. I don't know what i am. I can come to your office as well. If you reply to this as i am afraid to say in person all of this so i rather send an email.

Please sir i really need help

Answered by Dr. Ashish Mittal (21 hours later)

Brief Answer:
You need to confirm your orientation.

Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXXXXX
Thanks for your query.
I appreciate your efforts for medical consultation in so much distress.

Important aspects of your query are:
• 26 year old male
• History of physical and mental abuse in childhood
• Main complaints: anxiety, shyness and confusion regarding orientation.

You do not appear to sure about your sexual orientation. Even if somebody is homosexual there is no need to worry.

Homosexuality is not physical and psychological disorders because of these laws are being change in all word gradually to provide it legal status. It is just a sexual orientation.

Sexual orientation can be of three types:
•     Heterosexuality: liking for opposite sex
•     Homosexuality: liking for same sex
•     Bisexuality: comfortable with both sex

Prevalence of Homosexuality is around 2-4% in XXXXXXX and in some western countries it is more than 5%. Sexual orientation cannot be change and as this is not a disorder, so do not worry about its treatment. But it is commonly associated with anxiety, depression, adjustment disorder, self harm and isolation because of social complication. But same time remember physical or mental abuse always do not lead to homosexuality.

In your case orientation is not clear. Following steps will help you to determine it:
-Depending on content of sexual fantasy while doing masturbation.
-Liking of company of male or female
-History of sexual act.

Many person with anxiety problem which is likely in your case, may have excessive false fear of being homosexual. It will be better if you come and meet me personally.

I hope this information has been both informative and helpful for you.
Wishing you good health.
Regards

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar