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Question: Things I remember she did when growing up:
The best I can call these episodes are nasty rages that are evil.
1) Smashing up a gaming console my dad had brought because she didn’t like it.
2) My uncle purchased some slippers for me one Christmas, but she wanted them thrown in the bin and said I was bad for wanting to keep them.
3) Once traveling in the car she was arguing with my dad and she tried to crash the car by grabbing the steering wheel – terrifying for me.
4) Smashing my dad’s laptop in an argument.
5) Once I had a migraine and she went and started vacuum cleaning – it felt like it was on purpose and it helped to make me puke.
My dad is emotionally weak and I believe this is why she is with him. She constantly is on at him causing stress. She likes to control what he does. She can act like a bully.
My mother shows little empathy and claims to be the victim (everyone is out to get me), it’s always me, me me and never them she said.
She has fallen out with the whole family. The rages aren’t that regular anymore, but you feel as though you’re walking on egg shells when you mention anything that she wont agree with. She thinks I side with the family members that she has fallen out with, yet I’ve agreed that I see her point of view, she dosen’t like me seeing them at all.
The good things are that she provides me with food and clothes and even money – not that it is hers, she hasn’t worked, it’s my dads. All she seems to do is mean, constantly go on and on about people and her problems and it never ends – it’s just not someone you want to be around. She doesn’t have any friends.
I went over for a few hours Christmas day to see my aunt and nan. My mother understood that I was going and it’s something I do every Christmas. They’ve been great to me when growing up and still now – yet my mother would probably love me to have nothing to do with them. She wanted to know if her mother asked about her, I said I couldn’t remember, because I was driving. She went into a rage after I asked why she kept bringing it up with me, acting like a child, screaming, anger, pacing up to me like she wanted to hit me – I pushed her away and she couldn’t stand it. I tried to smooth things over after she calmed down, but the next day she ignored me and was nasty to my father. She seems to have the ability to work on my dad, and then he sides with her blaming me.
Does this sound like narcisim, paraoia, or what exactly?
Really looking for support, because I’m sick of her to be honest. She has OCD apparently, but that doesn’t surely explain this behaviour. She has been to numerous physiatrists, swapping them as she wasn’t pleased with that they said – I have no clue as I haven’t been.
The question is: What does it sound like my mother is suffering from? And how do i deal with it.
The best I can call these episodes are nasty rages that are evil.
1) Smashing up a gaming console my dad had brought because she didn’t like it.
2) My uncle purchased some slippers for me one Christmas, but she wanted them thrown in the bin and said I was bad for wanting to keep them.
3) Once traveling in the car she was arguing with my dad and she tried to crash the car by grabbing the steering wheel – terrifying for me.
4) Smashing my dad’s laptop in an argument.
5) Once I had a migraine and she went and started vacuum cleaning – it felt like it was on purpose and it helped to make me puke.
My dad is emotionally weak and I believe this is why she is with him. She constantly is on at him causing stress. She likes to control what he does. She can act like a bully.
My mother shows little empathy and claims to be the victim (everyone is out to get me), it’s always me, me me and never them she said.
She has fallen out with the whole family. The rages aren’t that regular anymore, but you feel as though you’re walking on egg shells when you mention anything that she wont agree with. She thinks I side with the family members that she has fallen out with, yet I’ve agreed that I see her point of view, she dosen’t like me seeing them at all.
The good things are that she provides me with food and clothes and even money – not that it is hers, she hasn’t worked, it’s my dads. All she seems to do is mean, constantly go on and on about people and her problems and it never ends – it’s just not someone you want to be around. She doesn’t have any friends.
I went over for a few hours Christmas day to see my aunt and nan. My mother understood that I was going and it’s something I do every Christmas. They’ve been great to me when growing up and still now – yet my mother would probably love me to have nothing to do with them. She wanted to know if her mother asked about her, I said I couldn’t remember, because I was driving. She went into a rage after I asked why she kept bringing it up with me, acting like a child, screaming, anger, pacing up to me like she wanted to hit me – I pushed her away and she couldn’t stand it. I tried to smooth things over after she calmed down, but the next day she ignored me and was nasty to my father. She seems to have the ability to work on my dad, and then he sides with her blaming me.
Does this sound like narcisim, paraoia, or what exactly?
Really looking for support, because I’m sick of her to be honest. She has OCD apparently, but that doesn’t surely explain this behaviour. She has been to numerous physiatrists, swapping them as she wasn’t pleased with that they said – I have no clue as I haven’t been.
The question is: What does it sound like my mother is suffering from? And how do i deal with it.
Brief Answer:
Symptoms pertinent to OCD.
Detailed Answer:
Dear
Thank you for the query.
From the given information, it seems, many information require clarification. The four points under ''nasty rages'' in the initial part of the descriptions, I hope, are regarding some body else. Who is this she?. Is she your sister? Some other family member? This person also seems to have psychiatric problem like ADHD or mild form of depressive disorder.
In the second part you are mentioning many things about your mother. I do understand the concerns. I also have my own doubts. Is the whole question and the incidents and examples are about your mother? In many areas the narration goes awry and it is very difficult to understand whom you mentioning. I request you to be more clear.
The whole of the second part symptoms aseems to be arisen out of frustration and depressive disorder. OCD is another spectrum itself. OCD people do have anxiety and depresion, and sometimes paranoia too. These patients can also show the symptoms of narcissism in extreme cases.
If the whole description is about your mother herself, then she is in a serious mental condition which needs continuous treatment, motivation and care. All the symptoms given could have been caused by the basic OCD and it should be treated symptomatically. There is no use changing psychiatrists every now a then. Instead she should be motivated to consult the same psychiatrist every month so as to undergo the required treatment procedure.
You and family members should be able to work as a motivator and catalyst in the whole process. Take care.
Symptoms pertinent to OCD.
Detailed Answer:
Dear
Thank you for the query.
From the given information, it seems, many information require clarification. The four points under ''nasty rages'' in the initial part of the descriptions, I hope, are regarding some body else. Who is this she?. Is she your sister? Some other family member? This person also seems to have psychiatric problem like ADHD or mild form of depressive disorder.
In the second part you are mentioning many things about your mother. I do understand the concerns. I also have my own doubts. Is the whole question and the incidents and examples are about your mother? In many areas the narration goes awry and it is very difficult to understand whom you mentioning. I request you to be more clear.
The whole of the second part symptoms aseems to be arisen out of frustration and depressive disorder. OCD is another spectrum itself. OCD people do have anxiety and depresion, and sometimes paranoia too. These patients can also show the symptoms of narcissism in extreme cases.
If the whole description is about your mother herself, then she is in a serious mental condition which needs continuous treatment, motivation and care. All the symptoms given could have been caused by the basic OCD and it should be treated symptomatically. There is no use changing psychiatrists every now a then. Instead she should be motivated to consult the same psychiatrist every month so as to undergo the required treatment procedure.
You and family members should be able to work as a motivator and catalyst in the whole process. Take care.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Sonia Raina
Thanks for our reply. Sorry for not been so clear. In all of the text I am discussing my mother. I look forward to your reply
Brief Answer:
Mother needs comprehensive wholistic treatment.
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for the follow up.
irrational thoughts and nacisstic behavior patterns are from the frustration of being extreme OCD. Depression, pessimism, aggression and extreme hyperactivity are also part of OCD. This is not the common type of OCD you usually heard or read about. These are extreme cases. The treatment always is symptomatic psychiatric treatment. She needs to be given medicines for depression, anxiety, anger and aggression and OCD itself. This being also a neuro chemical disorder, sometime mood stabilizer is also given.
She needs a comprehensive and wholistic treatment approach which may not be possible online. There is no use changing psychiatrists because it usually take time to understand the whole symptoms and the diagnosis.
Therefore, I suggest you and your family members, to motivate your mother so as she becomes ready to consult a psychiatrist continuously. This could be a life long treatment and there is nothing to worry. As long as she is able to manage her symptoms, it is as good as cure itself. Select a psychiatrist with your mother present and give paramount importance to her opinion. I also suggest atleast once a month consultation.
Take care. Miracles do happen. God bless your mother and whole family.
Mother needs comprehensive wholistic treatment.
Detailed Answer:
Thanks for the follow up.
irrational thoughts and nacisstic behavior patterns are from the frustration of being extreme OCD. Depression, pessimism, aggression and extreme hyperactivity are also part of OCD. This is not the common type of OCD you usually heard or read about. These are extreme cases. The treatment always is symptomatic psychiatric treatment. She needs to be given medicines for depression, anxiety, anger and aggression and OCD itself. This being also a neuro chemical disorder, sometime mood stabilizer is also given.
She needs a comprehensive and wholistic treatment approach which may not be possible online. There is no use changing psychiatrists because it usually take time to understand the whole symptoms and the diagnosis.
Therefore, I suggest you and your family members, to motivate your mother so as she becomes ready to consult a psychiatrist continuously. This could be a life long treatment and there is nothing to worry. As long as she is able to manage her symptoms, it is as good as cure itself. Select a psychiatrist with your mother present and give paramount importance to her opinion. I also suggest atleast once a month consultation.
Take care. Miracles do happen. God bless your mother and whole family.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Prasad
Hi,
The problem is that the family and her have fallen out. But this is even bigger issue as I want to still see some of those people such as my uncle and aunt.
Because I go every Christmas, it set her off the other day into a rage at me, which resulted in severe upset towards me and my father. She didn't seem to care about me and all was coming out her mouth was "me, me me" nothing else, all about her screaming shouting saying she is a victim to everyone.
I explained to her before Christmas that I would like to see my nan on occasions and she accepted that.
Now since I tried to smooth things over, but now I am been totally ignored. What am I supposed to do?
The problem is that the family and her have fallen out. But this is even bigger issue as I want to still see some of those people such as my uncle and aunt.
Because I go every Christmas, it set her off the other day into a rage at me, which resulted in severe upset towards me and my father. She didn't seem to care about me and all was coming out her mouth was "me, me me" nothing else, all about her screaming shouting saying she is a victim to everyone.
I explained to her before Christmas that I would like to see my nan on occasions and she accepted that.
Now since I tried to smooth things over, but now I am been totally ignored. What am I supposed to do?
Brief Answer:
Don't be emotional, somethings cannot be corrected.
Detailed Answer:
Dear
Thanks for the follow up
I can understand the dilemma you are in.
I do not want to sympathize with you simply because sympathy will be often read as negative approach. I do not want to give you negative ideas about life and the family. I sincerely wish you have positive idea.
You know your mother. You know her behavior patterns and her physical and mental troubles of disorders. You were with for many years so as to understand all the above.
In this context, why do you always want to correct your mother?
Digest mu question. Why do you always want to correct your mother?
Your mother were and is like this for many years and you always tried to correct her, cure her, make her behave properly etc. You tried many years but nothing fruitful happened.
I never said you shout stop trying.
You should always try because it is your mother, but after a particular point, you should take these things into your mind. Those disturbing facts are available there, disturbing you again and again. Accept it as disturbing facts, but you cannot do anything about it, except try.
Your mothers behavior is such because she is mentally disturbed. She behaves improperly and unexpectedly not because she does not like you, it is because, because of her mental disorder, she cannot do more than that.
The above said compulsion, "she cannot do more than that", should be basic for all your approach towards your mother. You can take her to any psychiatrist, but the treatment will be the same. Medicines names may change but the ingredients same.
Your mother needs to be treated at home by her well wishers, friends, family members etc. She needs sympathy and empathy and understanding. I am not sure, even if you provide all these, she will be alright. That is your dilemma and you need to accept that.
Therefore, I suggest, be with your mother as a responsible daughter, respect her, try to cure her, sympathize and empathize with her, cajole her and love her as if she is a child etc. But be away from her emotionally.
I know how ridiculous it sounds. But, later, you will be doing the same.
Ask your father. Don't he love your mother? How he is able to tolerate her behavior? How he is able to look at all these issues without being emotional? How he is able to advise you on these matters?
I say experience. He has enough experience in this matter and therefore, successfully, he "looks away".
Miracles do happen. Pray god along with your try.
Take care.
Don't be emotional, somethings cannot be corrected.
Detailed Answer:
Dear
Thanks for the follow up
I can understand the dilemma you are in.
I do not want to sympathize with you simply because sympathy will be often read as negative approach. I do not want to give you negative ideas about life and the family. I sincerely wish you have positive idea.
You know your mother. You know her behavior patterns and her physical and mental troubles of disorders. You were with for many years so as to understand all the above.
In this context, why do you always want to correct your mother?
Digest mu question. Why do you always want to correct your mother?
Your mother were and is like this for many years and you always tried to correct her, cure her, make her behave properly etc. You tried many years but nothing fruitful happened.
I never said you shout stop trying.
You should always try because it is your mother, but after a particular point, you should take these things into your mind. Those disturbing facts are available there, disturbing you again and again. Accept it as disturbing facts, but you cannot do anything about it, except try.
Your mothers behavior is such because she is mentally disturbed. She behaves improperly and unexpectedly not because she does not like you, it is because, because of her mental disorder, she cannot do more than that.
The above said compulsion, "she cannot do more than that", should be basic for all your approach towards your mother. You can take her to any psychiatrist, but the treatment will be the same. Medicines names may change but the ingredients same.
Your mother needs to be treated at home by her well wishers, friends, family members etc. She needs sympathy and empathy and understanding. I am not sure, even if you provide all these, she will be alright. That is your dilemma and you need to accept that.
Therefore, I suggest, be with your mother as a responsible daughter, respect her, try to cure her, sympathize and empathize with her, cajole her and love her as if she is a child etc. But be away from her emotionally.
I know how ridiculous it sounds. But, later, you will be doing the same.
Ask your father. Don't he love your mother? How he is able to tolerate her behavior? How he is able to look at all these issues without being emotional? How he is able to advise you on these matters?
I say experience. He has enough experience in this matter and therefore, successfully, he "looks away".
Miracles do happen. Pray god along with your try.
Take care.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Prasad
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