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Suggest Treatment For Symptoms Of Depression

Posted on Wed, 30 Mar 2016

Question: I have a psychiatric type of issue. my 24year old son has come home due to a job loss, nearly 6months ago now, and he refuses to abide by house rules. he constantly wakes me up around 3am as he doesn't go to bed until 4am daily. he sleeps until 2-3pm and I am exhausted. when he speaks to me, he is outright rude, condescending, and refuses to listen. I've asked him to move out multiple times and he laughs, knowing I won't really make him do it. he has little to no money and his father has no space for him. I cannot put him on the street and he knows it. he got a 5yr college degree, spends his days playing video games, and just took a part time job making minimum wage. he spends little time looking for a career job and I'm hemorrhaging money supporting him. help! what do I need to do?

Answered by Dr. Dr. Rakhi Tayal (28 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
He needs a psychotherapist.

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for trusting us with your health concern.
I can understand your dilemma. Your son is going through a hard phase of life. At this point he needs his family's support even if he pretends to be careless and rude. These are symptoms of depression also. Consulting a psychotherapist will be most appropriate. You can go to a career counsellor also who can explore career options of his interest. Just making him move out is not a solution. It is the time to let him stand on his feet. His aggressive behavior can be controlled with the help of medicines.
Please feel free to discuss further. I will be glad to answer the follow up queries that you have.
Wishing you good health.
Regards.
Dr. Rakhi Tayal.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Dr. Rakhi Tayal (20 minutes later)

thank you, he has just lost nearly 90 pounds and he is feeling much better about himself. I believe he suffers from low self esteem as every time I suggest an interesting career opportunity he tells me to either shut up or that I have no idea what I am talking about. BTW, i have an MBA and have been successful in many jobs. not sure why he refuses advice from me. he will ask his father for advice but not me. he curses every other sentence and says he would rather not live with me but he has no other choice. I've supported him financially, emotionally, and in his health endeavors. organic premium steaks are about the only thing he'll eat. we recently came back from a very expensive trip to Canada because he wanted to go to lose weight/exercise via skiing. like a fool, I agreed and we argued most of the trip. he is so hurtful at times I wonder what I've done wrong. how much more can I do?

Answered by Dr. Dr. Rakhi Tayal (56 minutes later)

Brief Answer:
His needs more time with his father.

Detailed Answer:
Hello.
Thanks for writing again.
You are trying your level best to help your son. You are a worrying mom. Your son may be feels more close to his father. It is best if his father guides him regarding his career or counsels him. Since he has the determination to lose weight, he will recover soon from this bout of emotional crisis and will be better soon with your efforts.
All the best.
Hope my answer is helpful.
Do accept my answer in case there are no further queries.
Regards.

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar