Brief Answer:
Try to reassure him and teach him to greet others.

Detailed Answer:
Hello thanks for asking from HCM for your health related queries

I can understand your concern. He is just 4 years of age and is having good intelligence and communication skills. But he is showing shyness with adults especially with teachers or neighbours. He doesn't like to ring the bell to call his friend because of fear.

It is common to develop some shyness in a child when he starts going to school. Child might difficulty to talk with strangers or even teachers. When any child start going to school then this is the first time he gets separated from secure base of attachment that is parents especially mother. Most of children show tantrums while going to school. Some children develop shyness after they start going to school.

Considering your baby, he is 4 years old and at this stage he is learning the things and exploring the things. He might have some underlying psychological phenomenon and this is the probable reason he is remaining shy in front of adults while at the same time he is behaving normal with children. Try to ignore his behaviour and no need to panic. Just provide him a warm loving support. While going out for shopping or even in park on meeting a friend teach him to greet. Reassure him if he doesn't like to talk. With progression of time he will start greeting them spontaneously and his shyness will reduce.

Even you can make a token economy schedule or positive reinforcement. While talking to him with love teach him to talk with confidence and don't remain shy in front of adults. When he shows desired behaviour give him a token and tell him that on collecting some particular number of tokens he will be rewarded with any good thing he likes. Similarly on seeing positive behaviour reinforce this by giving him reward. This will help to improve his behaviour.

Keep one thing in mind "Don't pressurise him for anything, never think to punish him"

He is absolutely normal and with age he will improve. Non need to worry.

Thanks, Hope this helps you. Please don't hesitate to ask again for more doubts.

Take care

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Brief Answer:
Try to reassure him and provide a loving care.

Detailed Answer:
Hello thanks for asking a follow up question

Just try to accept his behaviour as normal behavioural pattern. Some children are shy and some children are extrovert. But with age his behaviour will change. Just try to follow the behavioural methods I have mentioned like Token Economy, Positive Reinforcement etc. This will help a lot.

One more thing, try to find out the behaviour of his teacher at school or any rare evidence of being bullied at school. Just rule out these two things and if nothing significant found then no need to worry.

Don't be worried about his behaviour, he is conversing with his peers so there is no need to worry. Love him and provide a supportive care and his behaviour will improve.

Thanks, Still have more doubts please don't hesitate to ask again.

Take care

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