Suggest Ways To Improve Communication In A Relationship

Brief Answer:
You need to give more attention to her.

Detailed Answer:
Hi

Greetings from Dr Divakara P
Thanks for posting your query.

See a female leaves her parents after marriage and starts staying with her husband . All the happiness and sadness she wishes to share with her husband. But as a life partner you should be more approachable to her and be patient in listening.

I need to ask you whether you were listening to her whenever she came to you?

Did you ever refused to listen to her or tell her what she is thinking or telling is non sense?

If you have not been supportive to her whenever she needed you then she may feel bit distant to you emotionally and may not feel free to express her problems or feelings with you. And hence she might be talking these issues with her mother.

If you need to correct this first give more time and attention to her . If she is not expressing any of her feelings or problems with you now be patient. You start taking to her more , more personally. Tell her how you are feeling , what's happening in your life and then start asking what's going on in her life. She will surely start opening up to you.

Know one thing whenever a woman comes to a man and tells her problems she just expects you to listen to her that's all , a man need not have to solve her problems just listen to her.

Hope this information was useful to you.
Any further assistance feel free to ask.

Regards.

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Brief Answer:
Never prolong the argument

Detailed Answer:
HI

Thanks for the information.

Good to know that you are supportive to her . So you ( and your wife too ) has to understand that arguments are common between husband and wife. One will be right and one will be wrong . But the paradox is , it need not always be the wrong person who has to accept the mistake and apologize.

Your wife seems to be very adamant and rigid in character. She feels that she can never be wrong . Fine , what you need to do now is don't try to prove that she is wrong. Just accept whatever she says during an argument ( even if she says non sense ). Once the argument is over , once she is back to her normal mood then put your point telling that she might be right but that decision is hurting you or you are not comfortable with that decision and hence consider to think again . Don't get your ego involved.

When both of you are in good mood , tell her the fact that she never admits her mistakes and it is not a great quality. Admission of one's fault is a character of great people. You may make her do that by admitting some of your mistakes in front of her and tell her that you are sorry ( Do it even if you have to fake it ). This will gradually make her feel easy to start admitting her mistakes .

Spend more quality time with her like going out for food , movies or a trip.

Bottom Line is Never prolong the argument, accept that you are wrong ( even if you are not ) and end the argument.

Hope this helps you.
Do let me know what results you find from this method.


Regards.

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