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Suggest Ways To Manage A Person With Obsessive-compulsive Disorder
Question: How do you deal with a person that make you feel like you are a microscope all the time,even if it is a very small spot of food on your clothes. She is a daughter-in-law. I'm not the only one.I'm 83 years old .However a person that is very close to my son and just met her about 6 months ago, said the same thing although I haven't mentioned said the same thing.
Brief Answer:
Honesty and confrontation is always the best, in my opinion
Detailed Answer:
Hello ma'am and welcome.
Thank you for writing to us.
I have gone through your query with diligence and would like you to know that I am here to help. I can understand your predicament and how you want to be most polite and avoid any bitter feelings between you and your daughter-in-law.
But from my experience with individuals in such situations, I have found that the only way out of this is by confronting the individual in the most subtle way possible. Please make sure you speak to only your daughter-in-law and not anyone else, especially not your son, because this will only make your daughter-in-law rebellious.
But it is clear that this is how your daughter-in-law is, and I believe she could possibly have an obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), which could explain her microscopic behavior. But if it bothers you so much, you need to speak to her about it, and help her understand that this bothers you and that you will do your best to try and stay clean (within your best capabilities), but you need to let her know as well that you do not appreciate being scrutinized over all the time. I am sure if you make a few promises to her, and if she makes a few promises to you, you can both meet half way and reach common ground.
I hope you find my response helpful and I pray and hope your daughter-in-law understands how you feel, because honestly this is the only way out.
Best wishes.
Honesty and confrontation is always the best, in my opinion
Detailed Answer:
Hello ma'am and welcome.
Thank you for writing to us.
I have gone through your query with diligence and would like you to know that I am here to help. I can understand your predicament and how you want to be most polite and avoid any bitter feelings between you and your daughter-in-law.
But from my experience with individuals in such situations, I have found that the only way out of this is by confronting the individual in the most subtle way possible. Please make sure you speak to only your daughter-in-law and not anyone else, especially not your son, because this will only make your daughter-in-law rebellious.
But it is clear that this is how your daughter-in-law is, and I believe she could possibly have an obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), which could explain her microscopic behavior. But if it bothers you so much, you need to speak to her about it, and help her understand that this bothers you and that you will do your best to try and stay clean (within your best capabilities), but you need to let her know as well that you do not appreciate being scrutinized over all the time. I am sure if you make a few promises to her, and if she makes a few promises to you, you can both meet half way and reach common ground.
I hope you find my response helpful and I pray and hope your daughter-in-law understands how you feel, because honestly this is the only way out.
Best wishes.
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Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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