What Casues Erectile Difficulty While Having Sex?

Posted on Sat, 14 Jun 2014

Question: my bf falls asleep on couch alot he always gets huge erection to point covers stand up and you cant push it down, yet he has no erections or sex drive when awake I can put on lingerie or naked or scantly dress or even sometimes when I perform oral sex, we might have sex 1 time a week its stressful

Answered by Dr. Lohit K (2 hours later)

Brief Answer:
psycological.early to bed,more personal life,stres

Detailed Answer:
Hi, I went through the query and understood your concern.

Since he is getting erection during sleep his testosterone level is normal and there is no physical problem with him.

No sex drive when awake suggest the psycological problem. To increse sex drive towards you he should be stress free (if stress ful), spend more personal time with you, enjoy your company and main important is to get attracted towards you. Early to bed with good mood will also help. If he watches more porn movies try to deviate from watching it. Continue to attract him by the measures you are following. These will help.
If this fails you can get help from sex therapist once.

I hope this information helps you. Feel free to ask for any further queries. I will be glad to answer them.
Wish you good health and happy life.

Regards

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T

Follow up: Dr. Lohit K (14 hours later)

I do not attract him at all, he acts resentful or clams up. First he said ask, so I asked and repeatedly turned down even went to garage offered oral sex "let me tighten these screws first on this mower deck" "let me do this and that" to the point i came in and cried. I got where I felt ugly and ashamed of my body like I was the cause of no sex. I know im not but a girl needs to feel like she does turn her guy on and he doesnt want to lose her. He tells me he loves me but never has nothing nice to say no affection from him likes hugs kisses, I feel like a blow up doll he pulls out when needed. Not a good feeling at all, can not talk to him or discuss anything, its all my fault! He says I need to change this or that or act TN different idk what to do, he lives with me and says he wouldnt pay to live here! Yet pays not a XXXXXXX twds any bills even my best friend says he doesnt care, I truly dont think he has ever cared not for a minute and its like he has no feeling remorse nothing

Answered by Dr. Lohit K (22 hours later)

Brief Answer:
convince. counselling.

Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for writing back.

As I said before this is psycological problem. There must be some issues for which he is upset. You should find that and show that you have changed.

If you can't solve this then the best option is to consult a sex therapist or a psychiatrist. Counselling will be more beneficial. You both shoul come to one good conclusion. Make him realise that happy family is most important than any wealth or career.

I hope this information helps you. I can understand your agony. But try to convince him to lead a very happy life. Winning and loosing any arguments doesn't matter in family life.

I wish you a very happy life.
Feel free to ask for any further information.

Regards

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Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar