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What Causes Difficulty In Getting An Orgasm?
Question: During sex I never know if I cum or not and the guy I'm seeing always asks if I've came yet I say yes to make him happy but he says I'm lying:( and when unsay no I feel like I'm disappointing him. Also he always asks if I'm close to comig but I never know :( help me please what's wrong with me! This happens even when he fingers me
Brief Answer:
Please provide more deatil
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXX
Thanks for writing us again.
Above question and same related question has been asked by you previously. It was satisfactorily answered by Dr XXXXXXX XXXXXXX on 29th September and by me on 16th August.Hope you have got the points from that.Just revise those answers.
To help you more I need to know:
Please describe in detail about your understanding of "female cum" during sex.
What do you feel during different stages of sex?
Is there any urogenital infection currently?
Since when you are active sexually?
Frequency of sexual intercourse?
Does your partner use condom?
Waiting for your reply to guide you more.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
Please provide more deatil
Detailed Answer:
Hi XXXX
Thanks for writing us again.
Above question and same related question has been asked by you previously. It was satisfactorily answered by Dr XXXXXXX XXXXXXX on 29th September and by me on 16th August.Hope you have got the points from that.Just revise those answers.
To help you more I need to know:
Please describe in detail about your understanding of "female cum" during sex.
What do you feel during different stages of sex?
Is there any urogenital infection currently?
Since when you are active sexually?
Frequency of sexual intercourse?
Does your partner use condom?
Waiting for your reply to guide you more.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Raju A.T
No my partner does not use a condom! We have sex maybe once a week or once every two weeks maybe even just once a month! I don't know how to answer you're other questions!
Brief Answer:
It's ok, to understand female orgasm see below
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Thanks for follow up.
It's ok that you are not able to answer the all questions. I will try my best o guide you .
Female orgasm or climax or cum is a psychological and emotional experience during sex. As your partner starts thrusting movement of his penis inside your vagina, you feel initially slight pain and then tolerable sweet pain. After that you feel that he should do same again and again. If he continues so after sometime you feel something extraordinary that may be describing as too relaxing, feeling like in heaven or the just most beautiful moment which lasts for 15-30 seconds and after that you feel so light and relax. This is called female orgasm. During that your eyes mostly close down for a moment and your partner can recognize your facial expression of orgasm if he is aware.
Now think what I have explained and revert back with your thoughts about it.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
It's ok, to understand female orgasm see below
Detailed Answer:
Hi dear,
Thanks for follow up.
It's ok that you are not able to answer the all questions. I will try my best o guide you .
Female orgasm or climax or cum is a psychological and emotional experience during sex. As your partner starts thrusting movement of his penis inside your vagina, you feel initially slight pain and then tolerable sweet pain. After that you feel that he should do same again and again. If he continues so after sometime you feel something extraordinary that may be describing as too relaxing, feeling like in heaven or the just most beautiful moment which lasts for 15-30 seconds and after that you feel so light and relax. This is called female orgasm. During that your eyes mostly close down for a moment and your partner can recognize your facial expression of orgasm if he is aware.
Now think what I have explained and revert back with your thoughts about it.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vaishalee Punj
None of this has happened and we've had sex loads of times
Brief Answer:
it is surprising, please describe your sex event
Detailed Answer:
Hi ,
Thanks for info.
I am little bit surprised that if nothing happened what I mentioned, then how can you enjoy!
I request you to describe your one sex episode from beginning to ene in detail with your partner if feasible and please without any hesitation.Until I can get detail history of your problem, I can not guide you in right direction.
Waiting for your reply.
Regards.
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
it is surprising, please describe your sex event
Detailed Answer:
Hi ,
Thanks for info.
I am little bit surprised that if nothing happened what I mentioned, then how can you enjoy!
I request you to describe your one sex episode from beginning to ene in detail with your partner if feasible and please without any hesitation.Until I can get detail history of your problem, I can not guide you in right direction.
Waiting for your reply.
Regards.
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Shanthi.E
We first start of with foreplay but usually not for very long and then I go on top for a while and then he'll go on top and we'll try different positions but during it all it does feel good sometimes but I've never felt like wow this is amazing just feel like I'm going with the flow. Am I doing anything wrong? I don't want to tell what to do or anything. And I don't want to tell him it's bothering me. But even when he fingers me I don't feel like wow this is good or when he does oral :(
Brief Answer:
you seems to have anorgasmia, please see doctor
Detailed Answer:
Hello Dear,
From your narration it seems that you have anorgasmia. It means difficulty in or not feeling orgasm during sexual activity.
To decide the cause of it physical examination by gynecologist and psychological examination by a gynecologist/psychiatrist required.
It may be primary,secondary or situational. Evaluation of partner also needed sometime as sex is act of two.
Treatment depends on the cause found out.
In most of the cases understanding sex physiology, sex counselling and anticipatory anxiety removal are the sufficient approach. Some cases may need medicines according to cause.
Hope you have got the answer, I will again happy to help if needed.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
you seems to have anorgasmia, please see doctor
Detailed Answer:
Hello Dear,
From your narration it seems that you have anorgasmia. It means difficulty in or not feeling orgasm during sexual activity.
To decide the cause of it physical examination by gynecologist and psychological examination by a gynecologist/psychiatrist required.
It may be primary,secondary or situational. Evaluation of partner also needed sometime as sex is act of two.
Treatment depends on the cause found out.
In most of the cases understanding sex physiology, sex counselling and anticipatory anxiety removal are the sufficient approach. Some cases may need medicines according to cause.
Hope you have got the answer, I will again happy to help if needed.
Regards,
Dr.Chintan Solanki.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Raju A.T
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