
What Causes Loss Of Excitement And Dryness In Vagina During A Non-penetrative Act?

Question: Hello
I am facing a problem in fingering. When she is wet and try to go near her vagina and start fingering she loses all excitement. Even the wetness what she used to feel disappears. What should I do?
I am facing a problem in fingering. When she is wet and try to go near her vagina and start fingering she loses all excitement. Even the wetness what she used to feel disappears. What should I do?
Brief Answer:
she needs counselling...and needs to be spoken to.
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for the query to hcm,
You should spend more time on foreplay and avoid fingering till she is excited and also best would be to use a lubricant while fingering , this shall help retain her wetness.
Secondly, it is likely the anxiety associated with act itself which can make her anxious the moment you proceed for the act and she dries up. So you need to assure her and help her understand the whole process and that it is natural and shall help progress further in the act and is in no way going to be harming her in any ways. Please discuss it with her before proceeding and help reduce her anxiety. This should help.
Regards
she needs counselling...and needs to be spoken to.
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for the query to hcm,
You should spend more time on foreplay and avoid fingering till she is excited and also best would be to use a lubricant while fingering , this shall help retain her wetness.
Secondly, it is likely the anxiety associated with act itself which can make her anxious the moment you proceed for the act and she dries up. So you need to assure her and help her understand the whole process and that it is natural and shall help progress further in the act and is in no way going to be harming her in any ways. Please discuss it with her before proceeding and help reduce her anxiety. This should help.
Regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar


Thanks Doctor. Also what would be the best timing to do an intercourse. She says intercourse can happen only when the vagina gets wide. Is that true. Also is there any sex guide available to understand all this better since we absolutely do not have any clue on all this things.
Brief Answer:
answered
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
THERE IS NO BEST TIMING FOR INTERCOURSE. Actually unless you are planning for a pregnancy as a couple. You can have it anytime of her cycle depending on her comfortability.
The vaginal muscles tend to relax naturally during penetration and there is no need to widen the vagina as this occurs naturally. The pain during initial penetration and anxiety usually holds the woman back and she needs to be explained in detail about it.
Unfortunately there are no casual books which guide regarding the same, not that i know off. You may contact
answered
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
THERE IS NO BEST TIMING FOR INTERCOURSE. Actually unless you are planning for a pregnancy as a couple. You can have it anytime of her cycle depending on her comfortability.
The vaginal muscles tend to relax naturally during penetration and there is no need to widen the vagina as this occurs naturally. The pain during initial penetration and anxiety usually holds the woman back and she needs to be explained in detail about it.
Unfortunately there are no casual books which guide regarding the same, not that i know off. You may contact
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar


Thanks Doctor. One last thing. Whenever i finger her after 2 months due to pain she asks me to stop. So should I explain her in detail about it. Also is fingering necessary before the intercourse? Or on excitement can begin with intercourse as well?
2 mins*..
2 mins*..
Brief Answer:
answered
Detailed Answer:
She would complain of pain if the finger is not lubricated due to frictional injury.so use lubricant.
Also its not necessary to initiate the sexual act to excite a woman but even adequate foreplay with caressing and kissing can excute her well andthat can be followed with intercourse.
Regards
answered
Detailed Answer:
She would complain of pain if the finger is not lubricated due to frictional injury.so use lubricant.
Also its not necessary to initiate the sexual act to excite a woman but even adequate foreplay with caressing and kissing can excute her well andthat can be followed with intercourse.
Regards
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

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