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What Could Cause Anger Management Issues And The Habit Of Biting Due To Anger In A Toddler?
Question: Hi , I have a 22 months old daughter, who is highly active and has sharp mind and easily picks up new things but some time gets stubborn and aggressive, sometimes she screams at other kids and on us as well, bites us for no reason. we are little worried with such behaviour as she is our first child and we keep thinking how to direct her high energy towards positive behaviour and keep wondering what are we doing wrong. can you please help us understand this behaviour and how can we direct her towards positive behaviour.
Brief Answer:
A sensible approach is needed
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Tantrums affect around 80% of children, usually those between two and four, the age when children first recognize themselves as individuals but fail to comprehend that their parents have minds and emotions separate from their own. When children, bafflingly, find that their desires don't correspond with a parent's, all hell can break loose.
You need to handle the issue sensitively although there in no single definite way out. Do not abuse or hurt her and try to identify and avoid the triggers. Sometimes you would need to handle aggression needs to be dealt with aggression. You need to tell her (about certain things) that if she does not cooperate she would be forced to comply. At other times you need to reassure her and dissuade from aggressive behavior.
Regards
A sensible approach is needed
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Tantrums affect around 80% of children, usually those between two and four, the age when children first recognize themselves as individuals but fail to comprehend that their parents have minds and emotions separate from their own. When children, bafflingly, find that their desires don't correspond with a parent's, all hell can break loose.
You need to handle the issue sensitively although there in no single definite way out. Do not abuse or hurt her and try to identify and avoid the triggers. Sometimes you would need to handle aggression needs to be dealt with aggression. You need to tell her (about certain things) that if she does not cooperate she would be forced to comply. At other times you need to reassure her and dissuade from aggressive behavior.
Regards
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Kampana
thanks doctor, can you please elaborate more on handling her aggressive behaviour with aggression? Do you mean we should be loud in front of her?
Brief Answer:
Be clear, not loud.
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
No, you need not be loud, you just need to be strict and firm. The purpose is to convey that her aggressive behavior will not do her any good. In case she is being sent to playschool and she throws tantrums so that she can avert being sent there, you need to convey that if she does not comply she would be sent by force.
Also note that distraction also works well at times. When she is creating an issue with something, completely change the topic and divert her attention. If you can do it well, your job is done.
Regards
Be clear, not loud.
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
No, you need not be loud, you just need to be strict and firm. The purpose is to convey that her aggressive behavior will not do her any good. In case she is being sent to playschool and she throws tantrums so that she can avert being sent there, you need to convey that if she does not comply she would be sent by force.
Also note that distraction also works well at times. When she is creating an issue with something, completely change the topic and divert her attention. If you can do it well, your job is done.
Regards
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vaishalee Punj
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