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What Is The Best Type Of Parenting For Kids?

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Posted on Thu, 6 Feb 2014
Question: Which type of parenting is good or correct for kids? Strict or lenient?
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Answered by Dr. Venkata Subrahmanaym Mukkavilli (1 hour later)
Brief Answer: Both are not good for the kids. Detailed Answer: Hi, Thank you for asking question on health care magic. Parents should not be either lenient or strict for the kids. According to age and uderstanding capacity of the kids we should adjust our selves. From 1-5 years we should be lenient approve their actions even though unreasonable some times. we should patiently explain them pros and cons of a situation and make them understand when they go wrong. At this age kids think parents know everything and ask a valley of questions.You should not get annoyed and answer their queries genuinely.Do not bluff if you do not know the answer. From 5-15 years you maintain some what middle path between strictness and lenience.Some times we should be firm lest they may go astray.As far as possible you try adjust give preference to the kids opinion. Once he is 16 or above you treat him like your friend and discuss openly with him and try to convince them without showing authority or pressurising them Hope this answer will serve your purpose Please feel free to ask any more queries if required Take care Dr.M.V.Subrahmanyam MD;DCH Associate professor of pediatrics.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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Follow up: Dr. Venkata Subrahmanaym Mukkavilli (47 minutes later)
Thanks for your response. You are saying that for age group 1-5, we should be lenient. But these generation kids are so smart that they take advantage. They are behaving more adamently if we are unable to fulfill their wish at times. Their adament character are growing more and more. So they are crying or shouting for not fulfilling their wish. That too in public places, they are taking more advantage if we treat them leniently. They are not able to understand our situations even when we explain or try to divert them .
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Answered by Dr. Venkata Subrahmanaym Mukkavilli (1 hour later)
Brief Answer: Any way kids of that age are more demanding. Detailed Answer: Hi, Thanks for asking follow up query on XXXXXXX I know kids are more demanding, Good parenting means to tackle them tactfully without hurting them. You may some times behave as if you are strict but always take a lenient view. Try to explain taking more time with patience. If you know he is creating problems at a new place avoid taking him to such places as far as possible if avoidable. Hope this answer serves your purpose. Please feel free to ask further queries. Dr.M.V.Subrahmanyam.
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What Is The Best Type Of Parenting For Kids?

Brief Answer: Both are not good for the kids. Detailed Answer: Hi, Thank you for asking question on health care magic. Parents should not be either lenient or strict for the kids. According to age and uderstanding capacity of the kids we should adjust our selves. From 1-5 years we should be lenient approve their actions even though unreasonable some times. we should patiently explain them pros and cons of a situation and make them understand when they go wrong. At this age kids think parents know everything and ask a valley of questions.You should not get annoyed and answer their queries genuinely.Do not bluff if you do not know the answer. From 5-15 years you maintain some what middle path between strictness and lenience.Some times we should be firm lest they may go astray.As far as possible you try adjust give preference to the kids opinion. Once he is 16 or above you treat him like your friend and discuss openly with him and try to convince them without showing authority or pressurising them Hope this answer will serve your purpose Please feel free to ask any more queries if required Take care Dr.M.V.Subrahmanyam MD;DCH Associate professor of pediatrics.