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What Would Cause Disrespectful, Hostile And Rebellious Behavior From An Older Daughter Of 12?
Question: my 12 years daughter is turning very hostile and misbehaved,she cannot hear No and doesn't listen to her mom specially,her performance in school is good,with only complaint of being talkative .She otherwise is a very good child,but this issue of back answering , misbehaving and disrespecting everyone at home is really affecting the mental health of my wife? Please suggest the correct remedy .we also have a 5 year old daughter,my elder daughter feels her mom loves her more!!she also likes to trouble her alot.
Brief Answer:
The underlying problem needs to be carefully identified
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Let me tell you that such issues need a proper perception of the problem so that appropriate coping mechanisms can be developed. This can be done by taking her to a psychological counselor. The psychologist may undertake psychotherapy or counselling to get a concrete grasp of the roots of the emotional instability and depending upon the scenario will be able to administer cognitive behavioral therapy to help in its resolution. The story in case of each individual is different and therefore, their fears and apprehensions as well. They, therefore, need an individualized treatment plan. The issue here could be sibling rivalry or could be something else that does not meet the eye. Give it a try and surely I would be there to help you out in case you need further assistance.
I hope that such interventions will ease things for you and your wife. Let me know if I could help further.
Regards,
Dr. Diptanshu Das
Pediatrician
The underlying problem needs to be carefully identified
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Let me tell you that such issues need a proper perception of the problem so that appropriate coping mechanisms can be developed. This can be done by taking her to a psychological counselor. The psychologist may undertake psychotherapy or counselling to get a concrete grasp of the roots of the emotional instability and depending upon the scenario will be able to administer cognitive behavioral therapy to help in its resolution. The story in case of each individual is different and therefore, their fears and apprehensions as well. They, therefore, need an individualized treatment plan. The issue here could be sibling rivalry or could be something else that does not meet the eye. Give it a try and surely I would be there to help you out in case you need further assistance.
I hope that such interventions will ease things for you and your wife. Let me know if I could help further.
Regards,
Dr. Diptanshu Das
Pediatrician
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Remy Koshy
sir I would request you to suggest me a doctor/counsellor in XXXXXXX cause there is no one in XXXXXXX also guide how to convince my daughter to go there?and till we meet one how should we deal with her?
Brief Answer:
You can find one in your city itself.
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
I think that you need to reassure your daughter. Tell her that the fact that she is getting anxious indicates that something is not right. Tell her that the problem need not be with her but with some component in the environment. This bothering factor needs to be dealt with and for it to be dealt with, it is important to get proper insights into the situation. The psychologist will help in analyzing the situation and will also suggest coping mechanisms. Tell her that this exercise is not necessarily for her but for the whole family.
Till then, you need to reassure her.
Hope I have answered your query.
Regards,
Dr. Diptanshu Das
Pediatrician
You can find one in your city itself.
Detailed Answer:
Hello,
I think that you need to reassure your daughter. Tell her that the fact that she is getting anxious indicates that something is not right. Tell her that the problem need not be with her but with some component in the environment. This bothering factor needs to be dealt with and for it to be dealt with, it is important to get proper insights into the situation. The psychologist will help in analyzing the situation and will also suggest coping mechanisms. Tell her that this exercise is not necessarily for her but for the whole family.
Till then, you need to reassure her.
Hope I have answered your query.
Regards,
Dr. Diptanshu Das
Pediatrician
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