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Have Been Always Getting Anxiety Since Childhood. I Feel Every
Question: have been always getting anxiety since childhood. i feel every emotion much more than anyone whether happy or sad And people think its the high energy that i have got.Earlier i used to do self harm like cutting myself with blade or not eating or drinking water for whole day it feels now as if i m hurting myself for no reason....now i can be a better judge of myself that all those things that i did in recent past whether its about getting worried , getting anxious , crying ,hurting myself is of no use...but again i find myself in the same vicious cycle in which i feel everythng and getting anxious .For the entire last year and before that also i ws getting not so good experiences with people i ws facing eve teasing back to back n then i decided to move to a big city i used to live alone there , initially i live with a girl who also left no stone unturmed to crush me through her behaviour finally she left after a brief fight and i keep on blaming myself for wt i did to her although now i think that it ws a mutual fight.Also i have faced heartbreaks manytimes during my stay in that big city only ,pepole have left me beacuse of my nature ,it freaks them out the things that i did for them they think that i am mad (i also think by now that i have some serious issue) ,getting over someone is very very difficult for me but i think i will do that. Also i m preparing for a toughest exam which requires serious sitting and focus and it is a long process,i sincerely want to crack that exam ,i rhnknits the only thing that i want from my lufe now,n i study also but sometimes i break character and end up crying,calling or texting him , wasting time ,and getting anxious,which i regret later but its been so long since i have hurt myself in anyway.Also a big concern is that i am nt static and stable at one moment i take a decision and at the very other moment i find myself doing exact opposite of it,it feels i have lost all over myself.i want to be more calm and stable no matter what is happening in my life.The kind of society from where i belong it thinks that mental illness is a taboo and i myself have no clarity bt if not this then what is the reason for me taking so much tension about a thing , i habe never got myself checked by a doctor in this regard ,i have no history of any medical record.Also.i get attached to people specially men with whom i m romantically involve and even aftrr they left i stalk them n again waste my time.Doctor i have writen my problem.in a vague and arbitrary manner, plz sort things out.And telle wt shud i do without getting minimally impacted n prescribe medicines also if necessary.
Brief Answer:
Please provide me more details.
Detailed Answer:
Hello thanks for asking from HCM
I can understand your concern. The history you've mentioned suggest some underlying mood disturbance or some personality issue. Over sensitive nature, rejection sensitivity, emotional lability, crying spells etc are seen commonly in depression. Though this is not typical depression.
This should be properly evaluated. Please provide me more details.
You have mentioned that you have history of self harm. Could you please elaborate this. Is stress a triggering factor in self harm? Do you have motive of killing yourself in self harm or its just to seek attention?
Anxiety, mood swings are there. Do these symptoms have any relation with your stress of studies or not? Or when there is some fight with friend or any male friend then you become stressed?
Any history of symptoms like reduced energy, feeling fatigued through out the day, any symptoms like lack of interest or pleasure in anything, poor self care etc?
Do these symptoms remain persistent and are continuous or occur in episodes only?
Kindly elaborate the anxiety too. What kind of anxiety do you have? Any history of unwanted thoughts in your mind? Any restlessness, palpitations etc?
Please provide me details in follow up.
Thanks.
Please provide me more details.
Detailed Answer:
Hello thanks for asking from HCM
I can understand your concern. The history you've mentioned suggest some underlying mood disturbance or some personality issue. Over sensitive nature, rejection sensitivity, emotional lability, crying spells etc are seen commonly in depression. Though this is not typical depression.
This should be properly evaluated. Please provide me more details.
You have mentioned that you have history of self harm. Could you please elaborate this. Is stress a triggering factor in self harm? Do you have motive of killing yourself in self harm or its just to seek attention?
Anxiety, mood swings are there. Do these symptoms have any relation with your stress of studies or not? Or when there is some fight with friend or any male friend then you become stressed?
Any history of symptoms like reduced energy, feeling fatigued through out the day, any symptoms like lack of interest or pleasure in anything, poor self care etc?
Do these symptoms remain persistent and are continuous or occur in episodes only?
Kindly elaborate the anxiety too. What kind of anxiety do you have? Any history of unwanted thoughts in your mind? Any restlessness, palpitations etc?
Please provide me details in follow up.
Thanks.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Regarding self harm- i did it frst time when i ws about 15-16 of age due to inspiring frm a tv show in which a lover hurt herself to please god to help her beloved (at that time i ws nt eomantically involved with anyone) and i remember when that tv show stopped i became obsessed with its main lead actor and i used to feel as if he has left me and feel so anxious i dont feel like studying ,i remember i asked my yoga teacher how to calm one's heart n i dont remember wt he further said.But moving on frm that imaginary character ws tough bt i did.n then i hurt myself to please god to get me passed or to fulfil my demand(thats so foolish although i dont believe in it now) and this continued.But i never ever hurt myself to kill myself ,sucide ws never on my mind n abt getting attention also i ws least bothered bcoz when anyine wud ask me wts thus scar i wud tel them some stupid reason.so i neither hurt myseld for attention nor for attention,it ws may b some preconceived notion in my mind which ws very rigid that infollowed it for such a long time.it ws more like a quid pro quo with god n stress i thnk ws nt the reason. Regarding anxiety- sir this is the only portion which makes me helpless .there r many factors ,yes study is one of them , frst tym when i actually experiences restlessness n anxiety ws bocz of my exam which didnt went well n i thought that i wud fail so i ws so depressed bt i dont thnk anybody got to know abt this or they ignored so i thnk i resort to god n i got passed with exceptionally well better than my contemporaries.and about male friends so yes they do bother me ,its actually a mix of both studies and male frnd, when they ignore me like nt replying text or nt picking calls(i can umderstand bcoz i do freak out when someone stalks me) .bt then i uninstall apps delete their numbers n then after sometime ask our mutual frnds to give me back their numbers.its a gross violation of self respect,i wonder how cud i not stand by my words i feel guilty.i m feeling so so sad n depressed and any activity from him makes me happy again like if he text back,i thnk that everythng will b fyn.also its very heart breaking when other person didnot reciprocate.bt i strongly believe that if i cutoff him totally fr jst a week then i will move on bt strong determination is a big roadblock. Regarding reduced energy/interst- i m obsessed with things n when i get it i lose interst and when i dont get it i freak out for instane -i have lot of crush n when i approach them n if they beacme more cheesy then i lost interst n may b my behaviour towards them induced some feelings for me in them bt once i m done then i dont care abt my feelings.n if my crush during the process of me approaching him ignores me then i keep on intersetd in him n soon themis continued interst became an obsession.its very rare that i lose interst in everythng i found somethng to b busy XXXXXXX books r the biggest supporters.about self care so i m hygenic bt nt of high maintenance like i dont always do makeup n ol...i bathe everyday do XXXXXXX clean my surroundings room etc.yes i do feel less powered somedays bt that may b due to the reason of my period or pms may b.Bt outwardly i m very energetic n even if i m sad bt in front of someone i frget my problem n slip into happy mode.i hardly let ppl know wt i m feeling. Regarding duration of symptoms- not continue fr sure may b in episodes.after a good sleep food i feel energetic n full of power requires for the day. Regarding anxiety-- yes restlessness , palpitations,n m nt static like i habe to shake leg or have a feeling that my teeths r crushing against each other so while reading also inkeep on thinking that my is not rightly placed n that i will get tired soon and also i feel my throat to b heavy as if slightly strangled. in picture its my arm .
Brief Answer:
Such behaviour should be changed.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Thanks for providing details. After reading the detailed history what I can say is that you have some personality traits and these can be changed by behavioural modification. I don't think this history puts into any significant mood disorder like depressive disorders or some personality disorder.
If we take self harm episodes, self harm is seen commonly in individuals with borderline personality disorder and sometimes in depressive disorders. But in borderline personality disorder the individuals have dramatic behaviour. The self harm is done in order to seek attention of others. Mood lability is also seen commonly. Such individuals have rejection sensitivity (which to some extent you also have) but I don't think you have this problem.
In depressive disorders intent of self harm is to achieve real harm. Suicide is final motive and para suicidal behaviour is seen. You have some symptoms of depression which we can explain as co-morbid features of anxiety.
Now coming to what can be done?
First of all as you've mentioned already, you have to become more determined. You should have self respect and have full confidence. Its common in teens to show such behaviour but you should learn to change this. You every action should be directed with aim to prevent your ego hurt or to achieve relaxation.
For example when any friend fails to reply you, you immediately block him, delete his contact by impulsive action. But later you realise the mistake (?) and then you try to get contact number back. This causes a lot of hurt to your mind.
Now this can be taken in different manner too. If anyone fails to revert back then first thing that should come in mind is that, he must be busy or he must be having some other commitments or he is not at all responsible to reply to you or why are you bother if he is not replying you? This benefit of doubt will help in avoiding the impulsive action. If he replies then that is good and if he doesn't reply then you must not act impulsively. This reaction increases such behaviour in your friends and they take advantage of your behaviour. SO STOP REACTING IMPULSIVELY. Take your time and try to become indifferent to such incidents. Once you change your behaviour you will see change in behaviours of your friends too.
This will progressively help to reduce the anxiety too. You can follow relaxation exercises or yoga in order to stay relaxed.
THanks
I hope this helps, still have doubts please ask again
Such behaviour should be changed.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Thanks for providing details. After reading the detailed history what I can say is that you have some personality traits and these can be changed by behavioural modification. I don't think this history puts into any significant mood disorder like depressive disorders or some personality disorder.
If we take self harm episodes, self harm is seen commonly in individuals with borderline personality disorder and sometimes in depressive disorders. But in borderline personality disorder the individuals have dramatic behaviour. The self harm is done in order to seek attention of others. Mood lability is also seen commonly. Such individuals have rejection sensitivity (which to some extent you also have) but I don't think you have this problem.
In depressive disorders intent of self harm is to achieve real harm. Suicide is final motive and para suicidal behaviour is seen. You have some symptoms of depression which we can explain as co-morbid features of anxiety.
Now coming to what can be done?
First of all as you've mentioned already, you have to become more determined. You should have self respect and have full confidence. Its common in teens to show such behaviour but you should learn to change this. You every action should be directed with aim to prevent your ego hurt or to achieve relaxation.
For example when any friend fails to reply you, you immediately block him, delete his contact by impulsive action. But later you realise the mistake (?) and then you try to get contact number back. This causes a lot of hurt to your mind.
Now this can be taken in different manner too. If anyone fails to revert back then first thing that should come in mind is that, he must be busy or he must be having some other commitments or he is not at all responsible to reply to you or why are you bother if he is not replying you? This benefit of doubt will help in avoiding the impulsive action. If he replies then that is good and if he doesn't reply then you must not act impulsively. This reaction increases such behaviour in your friends and they take advantage of your behaviour. SO STOP REACTING IMPULSIVELY. Take your time and try to become indifferent to such incidents. Once you change your behaviour you will see change in behaviours of your friends too.
This will progressively help to reduce the anxiety too. You can follow relaxation exercises or yoga in order to stay relaxed.
THanks
I hope this helps, still have doubts please ask again
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thanku sir ,u hv given me insights about my own personality like 1. I m reckless ,till now my actions wr never directed to heal me or for my betterment in any way.I wud do things n it wud b based on hit and trial basis ,it cud hurt me or cud give me happiness.Bt i can control my happiness by controling my actions. 2. I m very impulsive.I speak very fast i want things to b done within no times whether its about study or relation....bt things takes time n its a gradual process. Thanks for making me realise this. My questions-- 1. i read about lithium tablets which ppl with anxiety can take , i plan on taking them bt didnt bcoz of their addictive nature.wts ur stand on these?or do u suggest me to take any medicines like normal multivitamins? 2.wt can i do to restore steadiness.I hv strong urges to shake leg n things like that , which makw me unstable. 3.what changes shud i need to inculcate in my everyday life style reagrding food etc to multiply the effect of all other efforts that i m taking to improve myself. 4.sir am i suffering from a mental disorder outrightly(plz explain comprehensively). 5.how can i be less excited about things. 6.I m nt teenager i m 24 .Does that mean i m nt mature enough mentally.Can this be fixed if i practice self control. Thanku Sir.
Brief Answer:
Try to learn to remain relaxed.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
YES, your each and every action should be directed towards betterment of your mind, ego so that this doesn't result in hurt of ego.
You should learn to control the impulsive actions. Just make a habit to delay the impulsive action. This will help in giving you some time to think and then you can avoid any wrong action.
Coming to your doubts.
Lithium is a medicine that is used in bipolar disorder mainly but has other uses too. Its not an anti anxiety drug. The drug you can't take without a proper prescription. The drug is not an addictive drug and is a safe to use drug. But I don't think you need this drug.
Shaking of leg could be part of anxiety. Follow a healthy lifestyle. Exercise daily and go for a morning or evening walk for at least half hour daily. Take high protein diet rich is complex carbs. Avoid excess fats and refined carbs.
Take diet rich in curd, milk, eggs etc.
You can take Vitamin B12 and D supplements this will help you a lot.
You are not suffering from any psychiatric disorder. But these impulsive behaviours should be controlled otherwise you might develop anxiety disorder or personality disorder.
Just make a habit to delay any excitement or impulsive action. This will help in making you a better person because you will have time to think.
24 is almost teenage considering XXXXXXX scenario and culture. But that doesn't mean that you have any disorder. Just remain relaxed.
Thanks.
Try to learn to remain relaxed.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
YES, your each and every action should be directed towards betterment of your mind, ego so that this doesn't result in hurt of ego.
You should learn to control the impulsive actions. Just make a habit to delay the impulsive action. This will help in giving you some time to think and then you can avoid any wrong action.
Coming to your doubts.
Lithium is a medicine that is used in bipolar disorder mainly but has other uses too. Its not an anti anxiety drug. The drug you can't take without a proper prescription. The drug is not an addictive drug and is a safe to use drug. But I don't think you need this drug.
Shaking of leg could be part of anxiety. Follow a healthy lifestyle. Exercise daily and go for a morning or evening walk for at least half hour daily. Take high protein diet rich is complex carbs. Avoid excess fats and refined carbs.
Take diet rich in curd, milk, eggs etc.
You can take Vitamin B12 and D supplements this will help you a lot.
You are not suffering from any psychiatric disorder. But these impulsive behaviours should be controlled otherwise you might develop anxiety disorder or personality disorder.
Just make a habit to delay any excitement or impulsive action. This will help in making you a better person because you will have time to think.
24 is almost teenage considering XXXXXXX scenario and culture. But that doesn't mean that you have any disorder. Just remain relaxed.
Thanks.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Gd eveng sir, so i have to do the following things to overcome anxiety and impulsive nature which for the time being are the only problems that i am facing , plz correct me if m wrong in anyway 1.Inculcate a habit to delay actions when anxious or worried or angry so that i will take a better decision. 2.Practice to remain relaxed by doing yoga if i feel restless or palpitation. 3.Every action of mine no matter how trivial or imp shud b taken jst to make myself feel better , confident ,happy. 4.Regular exercise , walk ,diet improvement and vitamins as u prescribed. Also sir i want to thank u for explaining everythng so well with respect to every front whether societal or personal. I will take small small steps toward achieveing control over my impulsive nature and anxiety and with determination i can do it and i will do it. And i will surely get back to u if i have doubts. Thanks
Brief Answer:
Just follow these steps and you will remain confident.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Yes try to stop reacting impulsively. Try to take time so that you can judge your actions in better way.
Yoga, progressive muscle relaxation exercises, music etc help a lot in reducing anxiety and also improve confidence.
Yes, your first priority should be yourself only. Try to direct all actions in the way that don't affect your mental peace.
Follow these steps and you will be alright.
Thanks.
Just follow these steps and you will remain confident.
Detailed Answer:
Hello again
Yes try to stop reacting impulsively. Try to take time so that you can judge your actions in better way.
Yoga, progressive muscle relaxation exercises, music etc help a lot in reducing anxiety and also improve confidence.
Yes, your first priority should be yourself only. Try to direct all actions in the way that don't affect your mental peace.
Follow these steps and you will be alright.
Thanks.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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