Hello Doctor I Am Suffering A Problem Problem Is That

Posted on Thu, 13 Dec 2018

Question: hello doctor I am suffering a problem problem is that last year I lost my wife in a critical condition when she is going to giving birth of my baby she pass away and my newborn baby also pass away the scenario when this is happened everything is wrong no one care of my wife when my wife is going for delivery I am not with her I lost 2lives . everyone is saying that we can't do anything please forgive me and live happy my age is 28 I married 27 April 2015 everyone is forcing me to do remarriage with her young sister but my heart and my mind is not ready for that but no listening me my father my mother and all my family se remarriage so we all will be happy but I will not forget my wife because I love her very much but no one listening me they fix my marriage in coming months and my father health is so down he is patient of heart during the time of Diwali a small and brain attack also affect is his voice I am very upset and very afraid with my father and my family happiness what should I do I am not sure if I will do remarriage then I give him a love like my wife what should I do please suggest sometime I feel very nervous and very upset and very bad things come in my mind to lost my life what should I do I never forget my wife

Follow up: Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (0 minute later)

hello doctor I am suffering a problem problem is that last year I lost my wife in a critical condition when she is going to giving birth of my baby she pass away and my newborn baby also pass away the scenario when this is happened everything is wrong no one care of my wife when my wife is going for delivery I am not with her I lost 2lives . everyone is saying that we can't do anything please forgive me and live happy my age is 28 I married 27 April 2015 everyone is forcing me to do remarriage with her young sister but my heart and my mind is not ready for that but no listening me my father my mother and all my family se remarriage so we all will be happy but I will not forget my wife because I love her very much but no one listening me they fix my marriage in coming months and my father health is so down he is patient of heart during the time of Diwali a small and brain attack also affect is his voice I am very upset and very afraid with my father and my family happiness what should I do I am not sure if I will do remarriage then I give him a love like my wife what should I do please suggest sometime I feel very nervous and very upset and very bad things come in my mind to lost my life what should I do I never forget my wife

Answered by Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (3 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Need some details

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for writing to us.

I would like to know a few details before answering your query.

Do you have any health concerns ?
Does your wife's younger sister has any health concerns ?
Do you like to marry her ?
Is she interested to marry you ?

I shall give my opinion after going through your response,

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T

Answered by Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (0 minute later)

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T

Follow up: Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (8 hours later)

1 I don't know that I have any health concern but my health is going down and I think lot of but I will think because I lost my wife and my newborn baby I can't forget him sometime I think everything is destroyed in my life and how can I give a better life to other person and I am afraid
2 as I know c does not have any health concern she is ok
3 I don't like to marry any of the girl because of these reasons afraid I can't give better life like before I am also afraid if this is happening again then everything will be destroyed because of I'm a private job and everytime I will not with her I am away from home 700 km many things and I am saying her don't show sympathy on me because that time you have your new future and your father will search a very good boy for you that will also start with that you live but with me I don't know how can I give a better life really I don't know but in other hand I can't say directly no to my father because of his health
4 she like to marry me because everyone is saying she is follow the obby of his father

Follow up: Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (0 minute later)

Answered by Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (21 hours later)

Brief Answer:
Discuss with your father

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Thanks for writing back.

Discuss with your father over time and convince him slowly that you are not interested in marrying her. It may not be a successful marriage if it starts with problems.

I would recommend you to visit a psychiatrist who can counsel you and help you over come the psychological stress you are in due to your wife's demise.

Wish you good health.

Regards,

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Answered by Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (0 minute later)

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar

Follow up: Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (1 hour later)

Thank you sir but no body listening MI while member says if you don't marry we will not happy and they fix my marriage .

Follow up: Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (0 minute later)

Thank you sir but no body listening MI while member says if you don't marry we will not happy and they fix my marriage .

Answered by Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (17 hours later)

Brief Answer:
its your life

Detailed Answer:
Hi,

Its your life. Do not allow anybody to take decision for you. The only burden on you is to convince your father.

Do consult a psychiatrists too.

Regards,

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T

Answered by Dr. Dr.Raju.A.T (0 minute later)

Above answer was peer-reviewed by : Dr. Raju A.T