Brief Answer:
Psychological involvement needed

Detailed Answer:
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I have gone through your query and understand your concerns. I do not think that there is a problem with your machinery. Rather, the problem seems to be with the activation and that involves psychological arousal. Prolonged foreplay is the key to proper arousal which is essential in order to achieve a good erection. Moreover, you need to keep in consideration that in real life you are not dealing with porn stars or professionals and unless your expectations are realistic you would be frustrated and your erection would be poor.

I would insist you not to panic. Prolonged foreplay and psychological involvement with your partner would provide a way out. Since you say that your masturbation is proper, it is quite evident that the machinery is working fine. If there is a problem, taking drugs like sildenafil (viagra, penegra) and similar ones would help. You would however need to discuss with your doctor before using them.

The next part is the involvement and psychological arousal. It might be beneficial to visit a psychologist. He/she would be able to provide you some simple tips which would help you to cope better and to let go of your mental inhibitions which might be standing in your way.

I am quite sure that would help. The role of further checkup would come only after that.

Feel free to write back.

Regards

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