Hello, You are dealing with anxiety, obsession and femdom fantasies. Stop looking at pornography. Avoid such kind of books and magazines. Visual stimulation, toys and porn can affect your sexual performance with your partner. Such things often lead to complications like premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, etc. You are advised to divert your mind and look for other interests or hobbies so that your focus is redirected in a way that leads you to calm & peace. To reduce the hold of porn, femdom, etc., you should try to understand the psychology behind such fantasies. You can take the help of a Counsellor. Get aware of your thoughts so that you can gain control over them, so that your fantasies can no longer cause you distress, despair or anxiety. Get connected with a physical therapist, CBT, talk therapy, group therapy, sex therapy, are helpful. They will help you come out of your problem. Switch to healthy eating habits, do regular exercises, do walking in the morning and evening. Take homemade balanced food. Quit smoking, alcohol and addictions if any. It may take some time, but healthy living will help reboot your mind. Make friends who believe in healthy lifestyle and quality living. Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further. Regards, Dr. Nupur K, General & Family Physician