HealthCareMagic is now Ask A Doctor - 24x7 | https://www.askadoctor24x7.com

Get your health question answered instantly from our pool of 18000+ doctors from over 80 specialties
159 Doctors Online

By proceeding, I accept the Terms and Conditions

Dr. Andrew Rynne
MD
Dr. Andrew Rynne

Family Physician

Exp 50 years

HCM Blog Instant Access to Doctors
HCM BlogQuestions Answered
HCM Blog Satisfaction

Can The Husband Wife Relationship Be Mended?

Sir, I am 24 years old and my husband is 28 years old.We got married only before 9 months.We don't have baby.Both of us are Maths professors working in the same college.We don't have money problem.Our marriage is an arranged marriage.We both love each other.We don't have any misunderstanding between us.I expected more affection from my Mother-in-law and Father-in-law's side.But from the first day of our marriage itself I met so many insults from my Husband's mother,father,brother and sister-in-law's side which I didn't see in my house.In such situations i expected my husband to support me.But in front of his mother he won't support me.Also he dislike my parents .But they love him as his on son.My husband had lot of friends before marriage.But he don't have any contact with them now.He feel's that.We are in seperated house.My husband wants to be with his mother.But she loves only him not me.So it is impossible to stay together.I am not able to forget even a single insult.Both of us don't have peace of mind.We want to live happily.Please give a solution.Thank you.
Fri, 20 Jun 2014
Report Abuse
General & Family Physician,  's  Response
dear friend,
i can understand what all problems you may be going through during all these months. from your description i can make out that you and your husband love each other but due to some family issues have been having misunderstandings. problems with mother-in-law and other does not matter if one's husband is taking care of her. but in your case you feel that your husband is not supportive. my advice to you is that every relationship takes time and you are a new member to their home just 9 months back. it means they may be expecting something which you may not be able to satisfy them right now but after some time you may be able to adjust to them.
its a very common problem in every house. do share your problems with your husband and convey your problems,ask him solutions how to mend ways, how to adjust, what are his mother's wishes and expectations. try to adjust because relationship is very difficult to maintain but very easy to break. so try to mend ways , try to modify your way of living because you have to stay with them only. trying to live separately ,doing things in different own way may make you feel happy but it will be short lived. next thing is if you support your husband , definitely your husband will support you but things will take time. have patience.
I find this answer helpful
Disclaimer: These answers are for your information only and not intended to replace your relationship with your treating physician.
This is a short, free answer. For a more detailed, immediate answer, try our premium service [Sample answer]
Share on
 

Related questions you may be interested in


Loading Online Doctors....
Can The Husband Wife Relationship Be Mended?

dear friend, i can understand what all problems you may be going through during all these months. from your description i can make out that you and your husband love each other but due to some family issues have been having misunderstandings. problems with mother-in-law and other does not matter if one s husband is taking care of her. but in your case you feel that your husband is not supportive. my advice to you is that every relationship takes time and you are a new member to their home just 9 months back. it means they may be expecting something which you may not be able to satisfy them right now but after some time you may be able to adjust to them. its a very common problem in every house. do share your problems with your husband and convey your problems,ask him solutions how to mend ways, how to adjust, what are his mother s wishes and expectations. try to adjust because relationship is very difficult to maintain but very easy to break. so try to mend ways , try to modify your way of living because you have to stay with them only. trying to live separately ,doing things in different own way may make you feel happy but it will be short lived. next thing is if you support your husband , definitely your husband will support you but things will take time. have patience.